Aligning with Your True Path

Melissa Amos: 00:00:00

Hello, Beth. Hello, Mel. Cats say good morning

Beth Hewitt: 00:00:04

today. Good afternoon. I know we're all out of sorts. You

Melissa Amos: 00:00:07

all in court at the same time every week, and now we're on a different

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day in a different hour, and we're going to come off here thinking that we've

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got our whole day ahead. Yeah, we do. I've got

Beth Hewitt: 00:00:18

a nine year old birthday party to go to and then the hospital to go

Beth Hewitt: 00:00:21

to to see my dad, and then I'll have my tea at some point and

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then bedtime. I think that's enough to be

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doing today. So what's going on in Beth's

Melissa Amos: 00:00:31

world, in the world of mystical, magical moments?

Beth Hewitt: 00:00:35

In the world of mystical moments of Beth, I have

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just completed, or I'm just coming up this week, we'll be finishing the

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gratitude journey for the month of May, and I've

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been welcoming in new members, so that's all been really

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nice. And then I'm looking at how I can

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create an evergreen experience of the gratitude journey. Because a lot of the

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people that do the gratitude journey, they come back again. They're like my little

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boomerangs. So I'm looking at ways I can make that more of an evergreen

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experience. So people can do the gratitude journey all of the time

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and people can join whenever they want to join rather than at the start of

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the month because gratitude is such an important thing to be doing and

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staying on top of. And so if that's what the people want,

Beth Hewitt: 00:01:19

that's what I'm going to do. That's what the people want. That's what

Melissa Amos: 00:01:23

the people will get. Yeah. So that's what I've been

Beth Hewitt: 00:01:27

up to. And I know you've been doing your wonderful

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event last week. Yeah. So my brain has

Melissa Amos: 00:01:34

been all around creating soul led

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businesses this last couple of weeks, which

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I absolutely love and adore, and being

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with all of the members of the group. And there

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was healers and energy workers and

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readers and coaches and actually some people who want bricks

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and mortar buildings. There was a definite range. And

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it's interesting to start to see some of the

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blocks that put, that we put up some of the assumptions that come

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when we're running a business where we

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hold ourselves in limitation, where we stop ourselves

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short. It was really interesting seeing this

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from such a wide point of view.

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And you know how it is when we're holding these experiences, these things

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mirror back to us. So it's fascinating

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how I think we're all being, but

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I think many of us are being pulled into a greater version of us, and

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it's quite hard to maybe know where that is coming and where that's

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happening. I think we should talk about that. I love this

Beth Hewitt: 00:02:45

idea piece of when

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we have come into alignment with who we

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are and what we're bringing forth into the world, and it's almost like

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we start to feel a little bit untouchable. But I

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don't mean that in a big headed way. It's almost like it doesn't really matter

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now that I'm on this path because I'm following my path and I

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trust in the path and I'm starting to align. And everything that I put out

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there in terms of my offers and my words and my connections, it's

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all, it just feels good. So maybe we could talk a little

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bit about that today because it's quite a big topic, but it's

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also one of those topics that's, I suppose it's the experience

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for everybody is different. And it's like, almost like, how do you tell somebody when

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they're in, like, how do you know when you're in alignment? Like, you just know.

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But how do you explain that? How do you articulate that to people who maybe

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are not feeling in alignment with what they want

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to be doing in the world? Yes, because I think that often when we

Melissa Amos: 00:03:44

start doing this kind of work, so the healers and the readers

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coaches and the mentors. Mentors and the teachers and,

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and the artists and this work that just seems to

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come from soul or it seems to come from somewhere bigger than us,

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and it's maybe follows on from an

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expression of what we are, right? And so we go out in the world

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and we're like, I'm going to do this. It's going to be my thing. It's

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definitely what it is that I need. But this is what I noticed, that

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we are fueled by our purpose. Most of the people

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who are doing this work don't normally do things the way that everybody else does

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things and start it. I'm doing this as a business. I'm going to start

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offering my things. And then we get into

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our heads about this is how it needs to look, and if I'm going to

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make it a business, then I need to do it this way. And this is

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my clients want and this is how I need to give them and everything

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that's got us to the point of launching,

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starting that bravery of actually coming out and saying,

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yes, I'm doing this. It almost falls to the wayside. And then we

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start finding ourselves looking outside

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for how do I price this? How do I package this. How does this need

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to. I can't do it like this. And everyone says, that's not going to work

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for me because blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And then we wonder why

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we're doing work that's so aligned to us. But

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it feels off. Frustrating. Things

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aren't biting, unfulfilling, thinking things are

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failing. And what I've discovered even more so with

Melissa Amos: 00:05:18

working with. There was over 150 people in the group.

Beth Hewitt: 00:05:22

Yeah. Seeing this time and time again that it's,

Melissa Amos: 00:05:26

I think, partly because we come out of

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alignment with how our work then needs to look

Melissa Amos: 00:05:33

in the real world. Yeah, that's what I was just thinking. It's

Beth Hewitt: 00:05:36

almost. If you take it as a journey we're in our lifetime,

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we're conditioned by this is how we need to be, this is where we need

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to go to work, this is how we need to live our lives. Then we

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get this soul's calling for. We've always got that souls calling. But we get

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this. I'd quite like to be a healer or an artist or something else starts

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pulling and then we start to embody that. And then it's almost. We're going

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back to the condition. Like, almost like now

Beth Hewitt: 00:06:02

I can be who I am, but I'm gonna.

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I'm allowing myself to be conditioned by everything that I feel like society

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needs me to be, or the marketing needs to be, or the templates need to

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be, or the scripts need to be. And so we go through that process and

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then all of a sudden we realize, actually, when I'm fully me,

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this is how I would do the thing and it wouldn't be the same as

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anybody else. And that's where the magic,

Beth Hewitt: 00:06:27

I think, is. But you have to go through that process. And I think

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we've all experienced some variation of that on the path

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because we understand what it's like to be conditioned, we understand what it's

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like to be trying to keep up with the Joneses or to keep

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our parents happy or all of these things. And then we

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find who we are and then we do it all over again. Because that's what

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we know as human beings until we go,

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actually, if I do it this way, that nobody else is doing, and it

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feels good and easy, that's when we

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crack open and wonderful things start to happen. And

Melissa Amos: 00:07:05

it can be quite subtle and it can

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quite. It can be quite

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insidious as well. Like, I've seen this as

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well, this. What's the difference between I'm

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doing something because I feel that I have to, or I'm not doing

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something because I feel it's not allowed, or I'm not

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doing something because I've got a wounding there or I've got. There's

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a lot life change there that I'm moving or working towards. And

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it feels safer to sit behind this

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somebody else's process or somebody else's

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thing. And it's so interesting,

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I shared just the other day that April,

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I did probably the most inner

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work for a long time on my business in

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various guises with various techniques and

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teachers. And then in May I had one of my biggest

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cash months. And is there a coincidence with that?

Melissa Amos: 00:08:10

No. And it didn't make sense. It doesn't make

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sense on paper why that would have been.

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But this is what happened and it

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keeps coming back into this know thyself, know thyself. Know

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thyself. And then trusting that whatever it is thats

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pushing you and moving you and calling you that, that

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is enough. And

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it doesnt mean that we throw all the strategies out the window

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because then where the other side of the coin as well. I feel

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I'm so in alignment and people should, I should be magnetizing my

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clients and so I needn't do anything. I don't think that's true.

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But finding the strategy, knowing the strategies, looking yes,

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outside yourself, working with mentors, working with other people,

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seeing the different processes and procedures that are available to you,

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and then bringing it in and going, okay, so how does this relate to me?

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Does this feel right to me? Does this go with my soul flow?

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Is this, if I had this biggest, greatest, grandest burden of

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me, would this align to that? I think it's

Beth Hewitt: 00:09:16

important that we try all of the different strategies

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on for size to see how they feel, the ones that

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feel good, the ones that don't, and using that as

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a barometer of how do I want to add to this strategy? Do I want

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to take away from this strategy? Do I want to put more of myself in

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here? How do I want to use this to

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articulate the thing that I've created in the world?

Melissa Amos: 00:09:41

Right. And that's a very powerful. When we get to that space, when we take

Beth Hewitt: 00:09:44

the, what do you call it, like the stable stabilizers off

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the bike and we're just going for it and we're like, okay, I've got the

Beth Hewitt: 00:09:51

strategy, I've got the templates, I've got the idea of how I can do this,

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but now I'm just going to take the wheels off and I'm just going to

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see, I'm going to wobble about on my little bike.

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And I'm just going to allow myself to learn to ride my bike

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the way that I'm supposed to learn to ride my bike,

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whether it's a bit wobbly or a bit off to the left or off to

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the right, and all of a sudden you'll start to come back into your equilibrium,

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your balance, and then we've got the wind, the universe

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source at our back, supporting us and guiding us on that path. And

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that when we get to that point where we feel comfortable

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enough to do, that's when I think a whole world

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of possibilities opens up to us in terms of

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collaborations and connection and ideas and

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just that ability to be playful and just try lots of new things

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that maybe we didn't even think was possible for us.

Melissa Amos: 00:10:45

And that is the point if we are looking at this just from an

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energetic and purpose, sole purpose

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point of view, our purpose is to know ourselves and to become

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ourselves, know and become and take action on that. And that is

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through our intuition, that is through our nudges, that is through our joy,

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that is through understanding the challenges that we

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face and what skills, talents we have to

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move through them. And whatever it is that you're doing

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in the world, this is our purpose, and that will be different for

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everybody, but the fundamentals the same. And

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so when we are then bringing work, this

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into our work, and we're becoming the healers and readers, the coaches, the

Melissa Amos: 00:11:29

mentors, the yoga teachers, the thought leaders, or

Melissa Amos: 00:11:33

whatever it is, I wonder why it is that

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we feel that then we can't bring it fully into

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ourselves because we are fully into ourselves,

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then the people that we're meant to

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be connecting with, the people that we're meant to be

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collaborating with, the people that need our level

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of support, whatever that is, can then find us. But

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all the while that we're sitting behind something that's not quite us,

Melissa Amos: 00:12:02

all the while that we're sidestepping. What I'd really like to do

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is this. But what I think is the safe version is this. The

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people who are primed to

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work with the what you'd really like to do can't find you because you're not

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there. And I have found, the more I've

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known myself, and I need to caveat with this, it's not

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permanent. There's a growth and we carry on moving and growing,

Melissa Amos: 00:12:27

but the more I've known myself then, the more I've been able to be

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sure on, okay, this is the offer that feels good for me right

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now. This is the launch strategy that feels good for me

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right now. This is the collaboration that feels good for me right now.

Melissa Amos: 00:12:42

This is the message that needs to go out. That just comes because I'm

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talking about what I love. And from the truth of me, I don't have to

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be wordsmith to be able to get that through. And then,

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from an energetic point of view, people are on the other side of that and

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they can feel it. They can feel like, yeah, this is. This is

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100% this person. And then we feel

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more as the reader, we feel more comfortable and confident

Melissa Amos: 00:13:08

in who it is that we're connecting with, even though it's

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on a subconscious, energetic, yeah, we don't even know that

Melissa Amos: 00:13:15

it's happening. There's a reception that's going

Beth Hewitt: 00:13:19

on, like, it's like dialing into the radio, tuning in

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to the station that you want to be putting out there and the

Beth Hewitt: 00:13:26

listeners being, this is the channel. This is the right channel

Beth Hewitt: 00:13:30

for all of us. Yes.

Beth Hewitt: 00:13:34

It's really interesting because my stepdad,

Beth Hewitt: 00:13:37

he's 80 years old, and we went round

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yesterday, me and Milia went around to see them yesterday, my mum and

Beth Hewitt: 00:13:45

my stepdad. And he just said, out of the blue, I've started a

Beth Hewitt: 00:13:48

YouTube channel. And we were all like, what?

Beth Hewitt: 00:13:53

He was. I've started a YouTube channel. It's just me in my garage

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talking about making things with wood,

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and I don't know what I'm doing, but I'm having fun.

Beth Hewitt: 00:14:04

And if it makes people laugh and it brings me

Beth Hewitt: 00:14:07

joy, then that's what I'm doing. And there was. Even though it was just a

Beth Hewitt: 00:14:11

silly conversation, and what he's doing is just. Is fun. There was something in that

Beth Hewitt: 00:14:15

about when we no longer.

Beth Hewitt: 00:14:20

I think it's care, really, when we no longer care what other people or how

Beth Hewitt: 00:14:23

we're going to be received, then we allow ourselves to do

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these things that for a long time, we might have been stopping ourselves from doing.

Beth Hewitt: 00:14:31

And so there was like a beautiful message in all of this. And then he

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put it on the tv, we were all watching his YouTube channel

Beth Hewitt: 00:14:37

and subscribing and things like that. And I just thought, if an eight year old

Beth Hewitt: 00:14:41

man who's been retired for a long time, who has hobbies, who changes these hobbies

Beth Hewitt: 00:14:45

all the time, wanted and decided to create a YouTube

Beth Hewitt: 00:14:49

channel, and he's doing it because that's what he wants to do, then why

Beth Hewitt: 00:14:52

can't I do this? Or why can't somebody else do that? If that's what they've

Beth Hewitt: 00:14:56

aspired to do for a long time. Does it really matter if nobody

Beth Hewitt: 00:14:59

listens or nobody subscribes? If it's the thing that you want to do

Beth Hewitt: 00:15:03

and you're going to have fun with it, why not just do it? But that's

Beth Hewitt: 00:15:06

easier said than done. I appreciate that. It is easier said than done, but also

Melissa Amos: 00:15:10

isn't. It's our own stuff. Somebody shared something today.

Melissa Amos: 00:15:14

First, while I'm looking for this, I want, if you know his YouTube

Melissa Amos: 00:15:18

name, I would love for you to shout out. I can find it. It's very

Beth Hewitt: 00:15:22

long. Even the name was mesmerizing and funny.

Melissa Amos: 00:15:25

Imagine that he might have done that. And, yeah, who

Melissa Amos: 00:15:28

knows? Maybe it will be the 100 million subscriber thing,

Melissa Amos: 00:15:32

right? Maybe. Maybe. Or maybe it's

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just. It's inspired this conversation. Maybe. Or maybe it's

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given somebody else permission to start their own YouTube channel

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that becomes the next 100 million subscriber YouTube channel.

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Or he's doing that and it brings him so much

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joy that he then raises his vibration and then

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he's a happier man to be around and then it affects everyone

Melissa Amos: 00:15:57

that's around him. What is success? Yeah, what is your

Beth Hewitt: 00:16:01

version of success? The name is so long that it won't even fit on my

Beth Hewitt: 00:16:04

screen, but I think we'll put it in the show notes. But it's something like

Beth Hewitt: 00:16:07

Phil Emerton Wood turning by an old man. That is

Beth Hewitt: 00:16:11

his name. That's what he's decided to put in. And it gives

Beth Hewitt: 00:16:15

lovingly quips to my mum. In it, he talks about my mum and what

Beth Hewitt: 00:16:18

she's up to and I know it's so cute.

Melissa Amos: 00:16:22

You just do not know where all these things will lead.

Melissa Amos: 00:16:26

I'm going to give you another example. Right. So in the call last night,

Melissa Amos: 00:16:29

in my challenge for business owners, we were doing hot seating, and there was

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one lady there and she was talking about all of the things that she has

Melissa Amos: 00:16:37

done and will do and actually what her dream is to create

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a bricks and mortar retreat space. And that's her thing.

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And my co host, Jessica, was saying, this has been a thing for a long

Melissa Amos: 00:16:48

time and all of this, but it's been there. But then she

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started sharing some synchronicities that have been happening, like,

Melissa Amos: 00:16:55

lately, and we were like, okay, like, why do we go ahead

Melissa Amos: 00:16:59

with this now? At the same time, Jessica and I have been

Melissa Amos: 00:17:03

having a separate conversation about potentially next

Melissa Amos: 00:17:06

year, I'm potentially coming to the states and I'm like, we

Melissa Amos: 00:17:10

will need somewhere to host a retreat. So we're having a separate conversation.

Melissa Amos: 00:17:14

And then this lady over here is having a thing saying she wants to have

Melissa Amos: 00:17:17

a retreat center. And part of the thing is because she wants to have people

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come in and teach and it's. Hold on a

Melissa Amos: 00:17:24

minute. If you follow your dream, if you do this,

Melissa Amos: 00:17:28

then it's also been the answer to my prayers,

Melissa Amos: 00:17:32

which is that I've been looking for this. And so you never know.

Melissa Amos: 00:17:36

And the point that you were making, Beth, about, as we

Melissa Amos: 00:17:39

follow this bliss, as we follow this desire and we

Melissa Amos: 00:17:43

don't know where it's going to lead, and then everything just

Melissa Amos: 00:17:47

seems to make sense. It

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completely changes the measurables at the

Melissa Amos: 00:17:54

end, because what is success? And again, if you

Melissa Amos: 00:17:58

look at the business metrics, it's. You need to be earning one,

Melissa Amos: 00:18:01

2510, 100, a million a month.

Melissa Amos: 00:18:05

Yeah, and that's what we see. Yeah, but

Melissa Amos: 00:18:09

if you don't. But you reach one

Melissa Amos: 00:18:12

person who then goes on and changes the world, or

Melissa Amos: 00:18:16

you reach one person and it hits them to then go and do

Melissa Amos: 00:18:20

something amazing, and then six months later they come back to you and they're like,

Melissa Amos: 00:18:23

Beth, that one thing you said to me on the gratitude journey

Melissa Amos: 00:18:27

changed everything. And now I'm earning my

Melissa Amos: 00:18:31

half a million a year and I want to invest in you and I'm all

Melissa Amos: 00:18:34

in. You don't know where it's going to go, but

Melissa Amos: 00:18:38

when you're like that aligned, it doesn't matter so much

Melissa Amos: 00:18:42

because you're loving what you're doing anyway and you get less in

Melissa Amos: 00:18:45

your head about, how do I need to message this? What words do I need

Melissa Amos: 00:18:49

to put out here right now? What do I write in my email? Because you're

Beth Hewitt: 00:18:53

just doing your thing. You're coming from that

Melissa Amos: 00:18:56

expression and it's not. I don't care what people

Melissa Amos: 00:19:00

think about this, because I

Melissa Amos: 00:19:04

think you'd agree, Beth, that when we do this, it is

Melissa Amos: 00:19:07

something that is bigger than us. So it's not just, I do it for

Melissa Amos: 00:19:11

me, what I'm doing, so controversial,

Melissa Amos: 00:19:15

but what I'm doing for me. I'm doing it for me. I'm doing it because

Melissa Amos: 00:19:18

it's my bliss and it's my journey and it's my purpose and it's my

Melissa Amos: 00:19:21

life and it's my Facebook lives and it's my Facebook wall and it's my

Melissa Amos: 00:19:25

podcast and it's me. And it's me and it's all me. And I have to

Melissa Amos: 00:19:28

do it for me and I make it bigger than

Melissa Amos: 00:19:31

me. Yeah, but I can't just do it all for you

Melissa Amos: 00:19:36

because if I do it all for you, then you're not getting a first rate

Melissa Amos: 00:19:39

version of me, there'd be somebody else who's going to do that better. Yeah. And

Melissa Amos: 00:19:43

I'm not. Where am I in all of this?

Beth Hewitt: 00:19:46

That's true. It's almost like it's a

Beth Hewitt: 00:19:50

selfish but non selfish act. At the same time,

Beth Hewitt: 00:19:53

I'm doing this for me. But the byproduct

Beth Hewitt: 00:19:57

of that is that you get the best version of me, and that is going

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:00

to allow you to maybe do the thing that you want to do.

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:04

But also, it's not just what the other person gets out of it, is it?

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:08

It could be that even if you do the thing that you are really called

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:11

to do, and nothing immediately comes as a result of that, there's nothing to

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:15

say. The. The dots, the connection of the dots doesn't

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:19

come later down the line. Like, you're doing this thing right now. You can't see

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:22

the benefit of it right now, but it still feels aligned. You hear all

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:26

the time that you have to keep going, don't give up. Don't give up. The

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:29

reward is there. It's coming. We don't know the how. We don't know why or

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:31

when it's going to happen, but it's coming. Okay. Yeah. And so

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:36

we're doing it, and then we receive that,

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:39

the benefit of that in probably more ways than

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:43

we could ever imagine. It's just that our limited perspective

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:47

as spiritual human beings right now is that we are only

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:50

focused on this part of the puzzle, this part that we're working

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:54

on right now. We're not necessarily thinking about the bigger vision

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:58

that we may or may not hold for ourselves or the vision that the universe

Beth Hewitt: 00:21:02

source divine has in store for us that we are just not party

Beth Hewitt: 00:21:06

to because all of the other conditions, all of the other people, all of the

Beth Hewitt: 00:21:09

other experiences, all of the other set of circumstances that have to

Beth Hewitt: 00:21:13

come into play. The planets align in all of that. We're just not parted to

Beth Hewitt: 00:21:16

that right now in this moment. So all we

Beth Hewitt: 00:21:20

need to do is just stay in alignment and keep doing the thing that brings

Beth Hewitt: 00:21:23

us joy. As soon as it doesn't feel good, don't do it anymore.

Beth Hewitt: 00:21:27

As soon as it feels like this isn't quite the way I want to do

Beth Hewitt: 00:21:30

that, then twist it, change it, shape it,

Beth Hewitt: 00:21:33

or. And look at what it is that doesn't feel good

Melissa Amos: 00:21:37

because sometimes don't feel good, sometimes you're like, this is the scariest thing that I've

Melissa Amos: 00:21:41

ever done. And that's good. And that's a good thing because we're leaning towards

Melissa Amos: 00:21:44

something. So it does bring up the healing journey

Melissa Amos: 00:21:48

ahead. Right. I was talking about this last night that

Melissa Amos: 00:21:51

you. What seems to happen is we find ourselves in a place

Melissa Amos: 00:21:55

and then we're like, well, where I really want to go to is all the

Melissa Amos: 00:21:58

way over there. This is the dream. But actually all I think is possible is

Melissa Amos: 00:22:02

here. And it's only 6ft ahead of us. And so

Melissa Amos: 00:22:06

we start moving towards that and then there's going to be challenges.

Melissa Amos: 00:22:09

There's always going to be challenges. There's always going to be something that comes up.

Melissa Amos: 00:22:13

And I think that this is good for us as humans to evolve and grow.

Melissa Amos: 00:22:16

But if all we're aiming for is this 6ft

Melissa Amos: 00:22:20

ahead, we're still moving through these challenges, but they're

Melissa Amos: 00:22:23

actually not giving us necessarily need

Melissa Amos: 00:22:27

and the growth opportunities and the potential. And then we can

Melissa Amos: 00:22:31

go jump through these hurdles and we get there and we're like, meh.

Melissa Amos: 00:22:36

And that's it. Whereas if we are actually honest with ourselves

Melissa Amos: 00:22:40

and we dare to dream, this has been a big thing for me

Melissa Amos: 00:22:44

personally. Like, what am I allowing myself to dream? Yeah, what am I

Melissa Amos: 00:22:48

allowing to be possible into my future? And I'm like, this is all the way

Melissa Amos: 00:22:51

over here and it doesn't matter whether or not it's

Melissa Amos: 00:22:55

possible. Right now, in this moment, this is the dream. This is where I

Melissa Amos: 00:22:58

want to be. This is where I feel most alive. I feel. I look back

Melissa Amos: 00:23:02

at my life and this is the place where it just looks. No, it

Melissa Amos: 00:23:05

feels like I'm moving to and I aim for that. Then I will

Melissa Amos: 00:23:09

start, the challenges will come and I'll grow and

Melissa Amos: 00:23:13

I'll have to evolve. But then it's. It's preparing me

Melissa Amos: 00:23:17

for that. All the way over there, rather than just this thing that's

Melissa Amos: 00:23:20

six foot in front of me, Eric, it's going to take you

Melissa Amos: 00:23:24

further. But we don't let us do this. Yeah,

Melissa Amos: 00:23:28

and it's sad, actually.

Beth Hewitt: 00:23:32

I think it's because we think,

Beth Hewitt: 00:23:35

or a lot of the time, a lot of the people think that we have

Beth Hewitt: 00:23:38

to do this thing on our own and that we

Beth Hewitt: 00:23:42

forget that as we come into alignment and as we

Beth Hewitt: 00:23:45

say yes to the thing that we want to do,

Beth Hewitt: 00:23:49

there will be ways to make that happen, that we are being supported

Beth Hewitt: 00:23:53

divinely and that we aren't doing our own. But when we start

Beth Hewitt: 00:23:56

to think in the first instance, it's because we think we are doing it on

Beth Hewitt: 00:23:59

our own. We think, okay, this idea is way bigger than me. I

Beth Hewitt: 00:24:03

don't know how on earth I'm going to make this happen, but if

Beth Hewitt: 00:24:07

everything is supposed to happen and unfold. And the very fact

Beth Hewitt: 00:24:11

that you have that thought, to me is saying that this is a seedling idea

Beth Hewitt: 00:24:14

that needs to be brought forth into the world. Otherwise you wouldn't have that thought,

Beth Hewitt: 00:24:17

right? Somebody else would have it and it wouldn't interest you.

Beth Hewitt: 00:24:21

And if somebody was doing the thing that you wanted to be doing, you wouldn't

Beth Hewitt: 00:24:24

be feeling those feelings of jealousy or whatever starts coming up for you or triggering

Beth Hewitt: 00:24:28

you because you're interested in that. You want to do that. You want to have

Beth Hewitt: 00:24:31

that for yourself. And so if you have that,

Beth Hewitt: 00:24:35

then we owe it to ourselves to act

Beth Hewitt: 00:24:39

upon it and bring it forth and see what magic that unfolds.

Beth Hewitt: 00:24:43

But we're never doing it alone. No, we're not.

Beth Hewitt: 00:24:47

We're never. We're always supported. But I think

Beth Hewitt: 00:24:51

we either forget that or we don't know that. We don't know that for sure.

Melissa Amos: 00:24:55

And it. But it can feel quite lonely, especially entrepreneurship.

Melissa Amos: 00:24:59

It can feel lonely because you are doing the thing

Melissa Amos: 00:25:03

on your own. And so the reality of how it

Melissa Amos: 00:25:07

seems just in front of you is I'm doing it on my own. And I

Melissa Amos: 00:25:10

get it when we're posting on Facebook and we're doing all the things that we're

Melissa Amos: 00:25:13

meant to be doing and we're like, no, nobody's listening.

Beth Hewitt: 00:25:17

Yeah. So then we pull back. And we pull back. But

Melissa Amos: 00:25:21

the question I'd love for our listeners to just contemplate

Melissa Amos: 00:25:25

is what I'm doing truly the

Melissa Amos: 00:25:29

thing that I want to be doing? I'm going to give you another example.

Melissa Amos: 00:25:32

I was speaking to a really good friend of mine and she said to me,

Melissa Amos: 00:25:35

like, why is this not working for me? And

Melissa Amos: 00:25:39

honestly, she is one of the best healers that I know. She is

Melissa Amos: 00:25:43

so knowledgeable. She is so. She is incredible.

Melissa Amos: 00:25:47

And when I asked her, what is it? I said, if money was

Melissa Amos: 00:25:51

no object, yeah, it didn't matter, but you could just do

Melissa Amos: 00:25:54

whatever you want to do. What would it be? And she told me, and I'm

Melissa Amos: 00:25:57

like, that's why it's not working, because the things that

Melissa Amos: 00:26:00

you're doing aren't that now. And she's not

Melissa Amos: 00:26:04

allowed herself for that to be a

Melissa Amos: 00:26:08

potential reality. Now, that doesn't mean that, okay, that's what I'm going

Melissa Amos: 00:26:12

to do. Therefore, now tomorrow, I'm suddenly

Melissa Amos: 00:26:15

world famous, blah, blah, blah, whatever it is, it doesn't mean that it's going to

Melissa Amos: 00:26:19

necessarily happen overnight. And it also doesn't mean that all of the things that she's

Melissa Amos: 00:26:22

been doing in this point would then just disappear. But when we're

Melissa Amos: 00:26:26

like, okay, but this is where I'm heading. And actually, the things that I'm doing

Melissa Amos: 00:26:30

now are supporting that. They're building my audience, they're building my

Melissa Amos: 00:26:33

repertoire. They're helping me get feedback on what the world

Melissa Amos: 00:26:37

needs. It's giving me whatever, like, all of the

Melissa Amos: 00:26:41

things. So you can still be doing essentially exactly the same

Melissa Amos: 00:26:44

things, but because you've got this, okay, the

Melissa Amos: 00:26:48

purpose of it is this. I'm realizing my purpose and I'm standing

Melissa Amos: 00:26:52

into that and I'm working on that in the background. Or

Melissa Amos: 00:26:55

I can see how one can lead to the other can lead to the other.

Melissa Amos: 00:26:59

Then it energetically aligns everything, and

Melissa Amos: 00:27:03

then suddenly, people, you feel

Melissa Amos: 00:27:06

it. You feel it when you look at a photo of somebody

Melissa Amos: 00:27:10

and they're smiling and you're like, they're not happy,

Melissa Amos: 00:27:14

but they're in the middle of Disneyland and everyone's there with

Melissa Amos: 00:27:18

their big grins, and they've been the happiest place in the world. And you look

Melissa Amos: 00:27:21

at them, and even though the face and the body and everything is

Melissa Amos: 00:27:25

unhappy and you look at them, they're like. Because we take in all of these

Melissa Amos: 00:27:28

different layers of information subconsciously. Yeah. Your clients

Melissa Amos: 00:27:32

are doing that as well. And even though you're authentically putting yourself

Melissa Amos: 00:27:36

out there, you're also hiding behind something. They

Melissa Amos: 00:27:40

feel it. They feel it. I know it, and I see it over and over

Melissa Amos: 00:27:43

again. Yeah. So we

Melissa Amos: 00:27:47

do this funny thing where we fall in the trap of, okay, this is what

Melissa Amos: 00:27:50

people want. So this is what I'm going to offer because this is the safe

Melissa Amos: 00:27:54

thing, and this makes sense, and this is logical in all of this, and then

Melissa Amos: 00:27:57

it doesn't work. And then we're like, if I can't even sell this, then how

Melissa Amos: 00:28:00

can I sell that? Well, maybe you can't sell this. You might as well go

Melissa Amos: 00:28:04

and sell that. You might as well go for the big thing. Yeah. Exactly. What

Melissa Amos: 00:28:08

magic happens? Who knows? And the more I have got to

Beth Hewitt: 00:28:12

know myself and my offers and what I put out into the world,

Beth Hewitt: 00:28:15

it's always been the things that have been an inspired thought

Beth Hewitt: 00:28:19

that I've acted upon that have had the greatest impact. And I know

Beth Hewitt: 00:28:23

that's probably the same for everybody. I don't feel like I'm a lone wolf in

Beth Hewitt: 00:28:26

that. I'm sure, Melissa, you have had downloaded ideas of inspired things

Beth Hewitt: 00:28:30

that you've put forth into the world and have just been magic.

Beth Hewitt: 00:28:34

And I'll often say to clients, if you're not, if you don't

Beth Hewitt: 00:28:38

fully have the belief in the thing that you're about to put out there,

Beth Hewitt: 00:28:41

then today's not the day to put it out there. If you don't

Beth Hewitt: 00:28:45

believe in your thing, then others will pick up

Beth Hewitt: 00:28:49

on that energy. Today is not the day. Yeah. And so energy

Beth Hewitt: 00:28:53

is a big part of this and

Beth Hewitt: 00:28:56

how it's received. But don't let that be the

Beth Hewitt: 00:29:00

thing that stops you going for the big thing. Like you say,

Beth Hewitt: 00:29:04

mel, you might as well go for the one that scares you the most but

Beth Hewitt: 00:29:07

feels so aligned. That, you know, because the truth is, no

Melissa Amos: 00:29:10

one really believes fully in themselves. Maybe some people do.

Melissa Amos: 00:29:14

And if they do, then they've done the work to get to there.

Melissa Amos: 00:29:18

Like, most of us have those pesky thoughts, thoughts in

Melissa Amos: 00:29:22

our heads that aren't very nice all the time. Right? And

Melissa Amos: 00:29:25

that's okay. And another conversation that's been coming up

Melissa Amos: 00:29:29

is this confidence when I'm more confident? You won't get more

Melissa Amos: 00:29:32

confident unless you do the thing. This meme

Melissa Amos: 00:29:36

that somebody shared earlier, like, it really hit me. I'm going

Melissa Amos: 00:29:40

to read it as two ladies, and it says, I'm afraid to be

Melissa Amos: 00:29:44

my authentic self with people because I don't want to be judged.

Melissa Amos: 00:29:48

And then the other lady's, like, whispering, and she says, hiding your

Melissa Amos: 00:29:52

authenticity means you're actually the one judging yourself.

Beth Hewitt: 00:29:57

Yeah, that is powerful. Who's bulls?

Melissa Amos: 00:30:00

And we do, and we judge, and it's natural,

Melissa Amos: 00:30:04

is normal with what we do. And we also

Melissa Amos: 00:30:08

have this other thing, this other part of us that is spurring us

Melissa Amos: 00:30:11

on. And for me, it's as we tune into that more, as

Melissa Amos: 00:30:15

we trust more. I'm here for a reason. I have a purpose.

Melissa Amos: 00:30:19

I own that. I have certain skills and talents and

Melissa Amos: 00:30:23

gifts and challenges. And you begin to own that.

Melissa Amos: 00:30:27

That judgment, I don't think, will necessarily

Melissa Amos: 00:30:30

go away, but it will become less

Melissa Amos: 00:30:34

potent and prominent. And then it's okay.

Melissa Amos: 00:30:38

When I hear that judgment, what am I afraid of?

Melissa Amos: 00:30:42

Coming back into that and working on that and seeing just

Melissa Amos: 00:30:45

things about me where I didn't allow myself to be the full

Melissa Amos: 00:30:49

version of me and I didn't even know. I didn't even know that was a

Melissa Amos: 00:30:53

thing. I'm like, I'm following my authenticity and I'm growing. And

Melissa Amos: 00:30:57

actually, had I landed in that realization six months

Melissa Amos: 00:31:01

ago, it might not have been the same. But then I realized, and I'm

Melissa Amos: 00:31:05

like, that feels

Melissa Amos: 00:31:08

good and true now. And as soon as I landed and accepted that and went,

Melissa Amos: 00:31:12

you know what? Actually, this is one of my gifts, and said it out

Melissa Amos: 00:31:16

loud. Then suddenly it was like a

Melissa Amos: 00:31:20

door opened that I didn't even know, was

Melissa Amos: 00:31:23

closed. And like, suddenly the fresh air comes in and you're like, that's

Melissa Amos: 00:31:27

amazing. See, I don't think it's something that you just do once

Melissa Amos: 00:31:30

you keep on going and you just keep on checking yourself and you're like,

Melissa Amos: 00:31:34

okay, why does this feel

Melissa Amos: 00:31:37

unlike right now? Why am I now feeling that

Melissa Amos: 00:31:40

resistance? Is it because there's some healing and an

Melissa Amos: 00:31:43

inquiry understanding to come from it?

Melissa Amos: 00:31:47

Probably. Or is it because I've just gone a

Melissa Amos: 00:31:51

little bit far in the wrong direction for a while and now I

Melissa Amos: 00:31:54

bring it back and I suppose that's the work, isn't it? It is

Beth Hewitt: 00:31:58

the work. I think it's important that we do

Beth Hewitt: 00:32:02

the work and we understand what's going on and we feel all

Beth Hewitt: 00:32:06

the feels. I think there is a danger

Beth Hewitt: 00:32:09

in staying in that space for too long. So often I see,

Beth Hewitt: 00:32:13

like, really amazing human beings who have got so many

Beth Hewitt: 00:32:16

skills and experiences, who want to be doing all

Beth Hewitt: 00:32:20

of these things, but they're spending so much time on the inner

Beth Hewitt: 00:32:23

work and not then allowing themselves to reap the

Beth Hewitt: 00:32:27

benefits of that. A lot of people stay in that

Beth Hewitt: 00:32:31

position for far too long, and that's there. We have to do the

Beth Hewitt: 00:32:35

work. But also, like you said, confidence.

Beth Hewitt: 00:32:38

Action breeds confidence. The more that we do something, the more that confidence

Beth Hewitt: 00:32:42

is going to just grow. And so if you're listening to this

Beth Hewitt: 00:32:46

and you're in that kind of bubble of doing the work, just

Beth Hewitt: 00:32:50

check in. Have you been doing the work? Have you done the work and

Beth Hewitt: 00:32:53

you're ready, or do you still need to do the work? We all still need

Beth Hewitt: 00:32:57

to do the work. We all still need to check in and learn and grow

Beth Hewitt: 00:33:00

all of the time. But there comes a point where we have to go.

Beth Hewitt: 00:33:04

Let's bring forth that dream that I have

Beth Hewitt: 00:33:07

been growing and shaping

Beth Hewitt: 00:33:11

and getting, preparing for all this time.

Melissa Amos: 00:33:16

And let yourself dream it. Yeah, because we actually spend more time. We

Melissa Amos: 00:33:19

dream, it says possible and then we spend and that's

Melissa Amos: 00:33:23

say, 1% of the time. The other

Melissa Amos: 00:33:27

99% of the time is all the reasons why I can't do

Melissa Amos: 00:33:30

it. And it's not possible. And

Melissa Amos: 00:33:34

it's helpful to understand what hurdles might come

Melissa Amos: 00:33:37

ahead. And this isn't about ignoring that, but it's how much

Melissa Amos: 00:33:41

time do you allow to spend on the dream and getting super

Melissa Amos: 00:33:45

clear and keep asking, that is the dream that I had. Is that still

Melissa Amos: 00:33:49

aligned? Is that still me? Have I now grown beyond it? Because that

Melissa Amos: 00:33:52

happens too, and that's amazing.

Melissa Amos: 00:33:55

Yeah, we don't need to get lost in it. For me, it's a

Melissa Amos: 00:33:59

practice that it's just keep checking

Melissa Amos: 00:34:03

back in. But the truth is that as you do the work, as

Melissa Amos: 00:34:06

in go out and do the thing and offer the service and

Melissa Amos: 00:34:10

put yourself out there and start to create things,

Melissa Amos: 00:34:14

that's when the opportunity to do the inner work, the

Melissa Amos: 00:34:18

useful inner work, the productive,

Melissa Amos: 00:34:21

if you like the real stuff, because as soon as you,

Melissa Amos: 00:34:25

like, reach your limit of your comfort

Melissa Amos: 00:34:28

zone and push yourself out, then something's going to come up. And

Melissa Amos: 00:34:32

then you're like, we're ready for this. And if the

Melissa Amos: 00:34:36

answer is no, then we go, okay, what's going on there? Yeah,

Melissa Amos: 00:34:39

then we do the work and then we push ourselves further. There's no point doing

Melissa Amos: 00:34:42

all the work while you're still in the comfort zone because as soon as you

Melissa Amos: 00:34:45

come out, you're just going to open up to something new.

Melissa Amos: 00:34:49

So we might as well, listener, you might as well dream big

Melissa Amos: 00:34:53

because the work's going to be the work. Amazing. Hopefully we've inspired some

Beth Hewitt: 00:34:56

people into action today, into a soul

Beth Hewitt: 00:35:00

inspired action. We would love to hear all about

Beth Hewitt: 00:35:03

the things that you have created and started as you've allowed

Beth Hewitt: 00:35:07

yourself to dream and do the thing. Thank you all for

Melissa Amos: 00:35:11

listening.