Convertibles with Heated Seats, Listening to Your Body and The Importance of Taking a Break!

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Hello, beautiful people, and welcome to another episode of

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soul inspired you. I am Melissa

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and Beth. How are you today? I'm

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very good, thank you. It's a bit frosty here today. What's the weather like

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where you are? Is it. Have you got the winter? Minus one?

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Minus what? I don't know what the temperature is, but it feels chilly. I'm not

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going outside. It's one of those gorgeous days. Back in the day when

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I was in the motor industry and I used to have these little

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convertibles, I would always get the convertibles in the winter because I

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would be the one with my sexy gloves on the roof

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down and the heat is blasting on a day like today.

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You know, it's really funny, I was in the hairdressers yesterday and there was another

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customer in there talking about their. Their car that has this

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heated function so they can literally flip a switch on their

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mobile phone and it heats the car up. I was like,

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amazing. No more scrapey,

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Scrapey. Imagine that for a heated seat. Oh,

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yeah. I just. I'd want it to go to work for me. That's the only

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thing I'd want it to go do, like, a full day's work for me. They

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can be that fancy. They can. They can do the things on the to do

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list as well. Beth,

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what soul inspired things have you been doing this week? Soul inspired

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things that I've been doing this week? I

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have. What have I been doing?

Beth Hewitt: 00:01:26

That's a good question. It's blowing and

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growing. Just flowing and growing. I've had, because I've just come out of

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a really busy November, I do 30

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day long gratitude journey. So that came to an end and I've been onboarding my

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new members and I suppose the soul inspired things I've been doing. Now,

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my plan was always to have a December. That was that

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I'd have more time to do all of the things that I want to do

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outside of business and get ready for Christmas and things like that. So the

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soul inspired things I've been doing really have been listening to my body more

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around when I want to do something or when I don't want to do something

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and when I want to go, like, knock on my mum's door or when I

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just want to. Just literally just going with the flow. So that's

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what I've been really working on in the past week, is just getting

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myself into a nice space where

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I've got my boundaries in place, where my cup's been filled up and building back

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up my energy after a busy hectic November. And it's really nice

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to be able to have the reins, to be able to do that and actually

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be intentional and plan. Having said that, things

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always come a bit left field. We're currently decorating and I

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don't think the sofa is going to be here before Christmas.

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So there's all these kind of curveballs, but it's just nice to be able to

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just go with the flow little bit more. So that's what

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happened really this week, just chilling out a bit more. I think it's such

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an important part of life and

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it's for business owners. We can really

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get caught in this trap of it has to be go

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and that we have to be our best all of the time and that we

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have to be out there and we have to be always planning the next thing.

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And if we're not planning it, we're implementing it. And if we're not implementing it,

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then we're actually actioning it. And if we're not actioning it,

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there's always something. And this is the world that we've

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been brought up in. And you think about

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regular working life and you get your 21

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days holiday, whatever we get a year and it has to

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be going, you have to come in and even if you're feeling sick, you've got

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to go in anyway. And I think that it

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can be really damaging, can't it, that we then grow

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up thinking that that's what it should be. And

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if we're not, then we're broken. Because when do, apart from when we go on

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vacation, when do we get time off? When we're sick? When

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we're broke, right? And then, and that's what we think, we're broken.

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And actually, the truth is, just like nature,

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just like the weather, just like everything, that there

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are these waves and there are these cycles. And we wouldn't

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judge a flower because it didn't decide

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to bloom in December when it's a sunny flower. Yeah.

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And for me, and I think for a lot of business

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owners, maybe we come into this journey thinking

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that I'm going to have the freedom. And for me, I think I shared with

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you one of my things was, well, I want to work when I want, with

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who I want and how I want. And the answer I got back was, that's

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impossible. And that's the

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paradigm. That's the old paradigm, I think, that we were living in. You made just

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such a good point. I've done this. And you were on the

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external, you were holding this space, you were doing all this stuff, and you've got

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everything there. And now it is that natural

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downturn of the quest. And I think more of

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us really need to talk about that and share

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about that. And people always say to me all the

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time, they're like, oh, Melissa, don't know how you do it. You're so busy. And

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I'm like, I'm not really. It comes, I don't know, like, I

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don't think, oh, I want everyone to think I'm really busy. Like, I just share

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what's going on. And I saw an old friend yesterday and he was

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like, oh, you're always on there. And I'm like, is that just an illusion?

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Because I'm going with this flow and there's this, these peaks and

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troughs. So, yeah, being able

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to knock on your mum's door when you want to and rest and just

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sit and watch a, a warm Christmas film every now and then

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is part of life, I think. Yeah, I think there's like,

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there's a guilt, isn't that some people carry, I know that. I've certainly carried that.

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If you're not doing the thing, if you're not turning up for work or you're

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not answering the emails right away, then there's this level of

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guilt that comes. Having said that, I knocked on my mum's door and she was

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going out, so it was literally not planned. I got there, knocked on the door

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and she said, oh, we're just going out, Beth. I'm like, I'm really sorry. I'll

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be around tomorrow. Okay, well, I might actually be working tomorrow.

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It didn't go quite to plan, but it was just nice to actually have the

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ability to go out of the way, knock on my mum's door and then drive

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home and go, do you know what? Okay, I'm not on my mum's this afternoon,

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but I'm just going to put Netflix on. I'm just going to finish a series

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that I've not watched and just do that kind of thing instead. Have

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you ever had that thing like where you're just sitting

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there scrolling on your phone or doing nothing or whatever the

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tv's on, or you just lie? I just like to sit there and stare into

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space. That's one of my things. And when somebody walks

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in or you see somebody's about to come in or

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whatever, and then suddenly you're like, oh, no, pretend I'm doing something. Pretend

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I'm busy. And it's this form of hyper vigilance, isn't

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it? I better be busy. Because somebody's watching me. Because at school, if

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you were daydreaming, you know, smack your hand. They don't do that anymore, do

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they? But click your fingers and turn around and pay attention.

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And for me, when I was at uni, and there was

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all, you need to be doing work. If you're not at school, then you need

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to be doing your coursework. And there's always something that needs to be done.

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And if you're not doing your coursework, then you've got your house,

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your room to keep and all of this stuff, and, like, where's

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the space? And I just think it's. It's one of these.

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I don't know what to call it, but it's. All of these things are taking

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ourselves away from who we truly are. Yeah.

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And I just hope that the listeners can really understand

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that it's okay to just. It's okay to stop and take a

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break. And actually, you know, it's. Even though we're stopping and we're maybe moving away

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from the day to day, things are still

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happening. We're still processing our thoughts. We're actually giving

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ourselves space and time for those thoughts to

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percolate. Percolate and give us ideas and

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inspiration. So it's not that we're not actually doing anything. It's actually we're just giving

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ourselves that space to renew our energy, but also allow

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things to just settle down inside those brain cells and start

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to create new and amazing things that we can maybe do,

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take action on in the future. But, yeah, we have to find that

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balance where we can. And it's not easy not feeling guilty,

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because I've always been a do it. I've always been incredibly busy. Like you say

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when you're at school, it's that teacher comes into the class, it stand up, sit

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up straight kind of mentality, we're ready for learning, let's

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go kind of thing. But it doesn't have to. It doesn't have to always

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be that way. And it's a shame that no one teaches that when we're younger,

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that playtime is

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important time as well. Break time should be

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break time should be break time. Sometimes one of my

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kids will say that, oh, they took ten minutes of our

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break time because we were talking. And I'm like, oh, my goodness me. I'm like,

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just tell your teacher that break time is the most important part, is when they're

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socializing and when their imagination's running free and when they can,

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like, all the good behavior that they have to exhibit in class,

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this. Don't talk, don't fidget, sit still.

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Do listen to what I'm saying to you, even if you don't find it

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interesting. Listen to how I'm teaching you, even if this isn't

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the way that you learn. Listen, you need that

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break. And what's minor, a little two or

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minor a little still in primary school. And what do they get? Two

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or three breaks a day. And in 6 hours I think about how

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I work and there's, there is that kind of up and down time.

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And this is a really lovely school that really honors

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the children and all of this, but that is just the schooling

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system. And then we grow up

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and there's no point. There's no point in our lives that we go,

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Beth, you're an adult now. You're an adult now,

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Beth. Now it's your responsibility to choose when

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you want to get up and when you want to go to sleep and what

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you want to listen to and what you want to choose and how you want

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to show up. Because that is

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life, isn't it? But that's not

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actually. That's the road less traveled. Yeah. If you

Beth Hewitt: 00:10:05

go into employment, then you don't actually have that.

Beth Hewitt: 00:10:10

It shouldn't be a luxury, but you don't have that because it's so structured and

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there's deadlines and everything else. And then when you move

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into. If you move into self employment, then

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you carry that not only from employed work, but you're also

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carrying it from your childhood as well. Of having that structured, that the teachers can

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fit the curriculum in, is that the day is structured in a certain way.

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So unless you stop

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and think about that ability to structure your time in

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a different way and unlearn and unpick some of that, and

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it feels super unnatural

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to. To stop and just listen to your body, to go to

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bed on a Tuesday night thinking, I've got 10

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million things on my to do list tomorrow, and then waking up on Wednesday and

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really listening to your body and going, do you know what I think actually, if

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I push too hard on my to do list today, that's going to be more

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damaging than just actually doing nothing today, because then I can be

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more productive on Thursday. That's a

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difficult shift to me, conditioned

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for so long to do it in such a different way. But

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I personally find that if even when I've got. There's always things on the to

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do list, right, the to do list never really ends. And I could have

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done a multitude of things yesterday and I did literally

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none of them, apart from maybe answer a couple of emails on my phone.

Melissa Amos: 00:11:32

Yeah. Now I just approach life as

Beth Hewitt: 00:11:36

it's a continuum and that what doesn't get done yesterday will

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get done at exactly the right time. If everything unfolds and

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happens at exactly the right time, if everything's going to unfold exactly when it's supposed

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to unfold, then it will happen.

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Sometimes you can be worried about, oh, I literally haven't got time to do something.

Beth Hewitt: 00:11:54

And then that thing gets taken off your to do list because somebody sends an

Beth Hewitt: 00:11:57

email and goes, oh, do you know what? That's not a requirement anymore. So I

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think if we trust our

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own intuition around

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what is happening, can I pause? Can I reflect? Can I stop?

Melissa Amos: 00:12:11

Yes. I would say in most instances, you absolutely

Beth Hewitt: 00:12:15

can't, unless the house is literally burning down and something needs to be done.

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But I think, yeah, just giving yourself that time and

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space to stop and reflect and

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think, is this something that can wait until tomorrow?

Beth Hewitt: 00:12:29

And then I always find that I'm super productive. I know today I'm

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going to have a super productive day because yesterday I was

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resting and percolating and stopping. It's

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changing that perspective, I think, on now because that

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comes up again. Yesterday I had a day off, so now I have to. But

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I've noticed something, and this conversation is something that's really

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important to me. And I realized, looking back in my

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life, that this is what my soul or my energy, or

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maybe even, you know, my human, which I always put

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down, or it was labeled as laziness and

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worst thing, somebody could call me, I realized that

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this flow thing was what I was always actually being pushed to

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do. And for me,

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it's. The more we understand that,

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well, we don't have to say yes to everything. There are only

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so many hours. Relaxing time or moving your

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body time or reading your book time or chatting to your friend

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time is just as important as

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the other times that actually things just

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tend to flow. Yeah. And then

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I think, actually, we started this conversation and people

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always say to me, how do you do so much? And my reality

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is I don't feel like I'm always doing,

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because then the moments that you are actually in the

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doing, you're doing them with the whole of you, not with

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25% of you, because 75% of you doing in

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your head all of the other things. Something happens

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when you allow these peaks and troughs. I don't know. I

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think it becomes that. Your word becomes your word, and that

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is what you're deciding. I'm going to do this. I'm going to do

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this because I said I'm going to do this. But if I can't, and I

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can't be there at 100%,

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actually what normally happens is the other person's, oh, thank God you

Melissa Amos: 00:14:30

cancelled, right? Something, oh,

Melissa Amos: 00:14:34

we don't need that. Like you said, we don't need that anymore. That's not a

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requirement. The more present we can be,

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the irony, the oxymoron is

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more gets done, and it gets done well, and it gets done in the

Melissa Amos: 00:14:48

right way, like all of this cycle.

Beth Hewitt: 00:14:52

Yeah. And when you said about when people called you

Beth Hewitt: 00:14:55

lazy, that's like the worst thing that I felt. Exactly. If somebody says to

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me, not, you're not pulling your weight or you're being lazy, whatever, that's.

Beth Hewitt: 00:15:03

That would have been at one time the trigger for me to go, okay, you

Beth Hewitt: 00:15:06

think I'm lazy, and then just like going 100%

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and doing a crazy amount of things, and now what I'm doing is always

Beth Hewitt: 00:15:14

enough. And if you've always been the person that

Beth Hewitt: 00:15:17

has cut your grass, or you've tidied your garden, or

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you've always put your bins out, you'll always be that person. You're not gonna. Just

Beth Hewitt: 00:15:24

because you're having a down day doesn't mean that all of the morals

Beth Hewitt: 00:15:28

and all of your values suddenly disappear. Someone said that to me

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when I was thinking about quitting my job and not

Beth Hewitt: 00:15:36

having enough money coming in, or the same amount of money as I

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did previously. And they said, but if you've always paid your bills, you'll

Beth Hewitt: 00:15:43

always find a way to pay your bills. You don't all of a sudden

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lose that ability just because circumstances have

Beth Hewitt: 00:15:51

changed. That's who you are. And it's the same with time. Just because we

Beth Hewitt: 00:15:54

stop doesn't mean that we're not going to get all of those things done that

Beth Hewitt: 00:15:58

we really want to get done. I wonder if all of

Melissa Amos: 00:16:01

this doing time, it's

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distraction, isn't it? It's a distraction away from who you truly

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are and who your soul is. I suppose

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for you, and I'm sure many of the listeners

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here, we realize actually how important

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our soul is and how important this inner world is and

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how important we are. And we will never discover

Melissa Amos: 00:16:27

ourselves, not our true selves, if we never stop.

Beth Hewitt: 00:16:31

That's true. I think it's also really important

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that the things that we're doing when we're doing them

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are the things that are aligned to our souls. So if we

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don't give ourselves that time and space to stop. We can't figure out, we

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can't get that clarity and intention around what it is really super

Beth Hewitt: 00:16:49

passionate about doing. And then we can plan and

Beth Hewitt: 00:16:53

create action aligned with those things

Beth Hewitt: 00:16:57

and instead we just, we

Beth Hewitt: 00:17:01

could question, if we haven't done that work, what am I actually

Beth Hewitt: 00:17:05

doing when I'm doing? What am I actually ticking off? Are

Beth Hewitt: 00:17:08

these things actually aligned with the higher thing that I want to be doing or

Beth Hewitt: 00:17:11

am I just doing. Because that's what I've always been taught to

Beth Hewitt: 00:17:15

do, right? It's like we're on autopilot and then we

Melissa Amos: 00:17:19

stop and then all that, suddenly we stop and then the, like,

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barrage of emotions and thoughts and, oh,

Melissa Amos: 00:17:26

could have, should have, could haves. And all of this stuff starts to come out.

Melissa Amos: 00:17:29

If anyone's just starting their meditation journey and they're

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like, I'm going to sit and I'm going to feel peace for two minutes. I'm

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going to feel peace for two minutes. And you sit there and then everything

Melissa Amos: 00:17:40

just comes up. It's almost like there's a part of you that goes,

Melissa Amos: 00:17:44

oh, she's quiet. This is our chance to tell her everything.

Melissa Amos: 00:17:48

And you're just like.

Melissa Amos: 00:17:51

And. But there is a point, I don't think, that

Melissa Amos: 00:17:54

stops. I've been doing this work for many

Melissa Amos: 00:17:58

years and it's not stopped, but it

Melissa Amos: 00:18:01

lessens. And. Or I don't know, maybe it's that when

Melissa Amos: 00:18:05

it does come, there's not an attachment to this. It's, oh, okay,

Melissa Amos: 00:18:09

I'm going to give you this part of me a little time to

Melissa Amos: 00:18:12

vent because bit, I'm not giving you time all day, all

Melissa Amos: 00:18:16

week, all month. And

Melissa Amos: 00:18:20

then it settles down and then you start to hear the voice

Melissa Amos: 00:18:24

underneath it or that feeling underneath it,

Melissa Amos: 00:18:28

which then gives you that aligned

Melissa Amos: 00:18:31

action to take. And when you take aligned

Melissa Amos: 00:18:35

action, it's like it is fueled by something

Melissa Amos: 00:18:39

so different. Yes, I have to. Or

Melissa Amos: 00:18:43

just because that's what we do, it becomes

Melissa Amos: 00:18:47

bigger and bigger. It's like it's

Beth Hewitt: 00:18:50

fueling itself. I think if we go back

Beth Hewitt: 00:18:54

to the, one of the first episodes when you were talking about when you sat

Beth Hewitt: 00:18:57

down and wrote the book and it just came out of you and it was

Beth Hewitt: 00:19:01

just flowing ease, it's that kind of energy

Beth Hewitt: 00:19:04

that's behind that when we're in that space.

Melissa Amos: 00:19:07

Yeah. Effortless effort. It's

Melissa Amos: 00:19:11

not that we don't do, and I can understand it can come across that

Melissa Amos: 00:19:15

way. You still do. You still got to do. But the doing

Melissa Amos: 00:19:19

is, it's just different. It's, yes, I'm

Melissa Amos: 00:19:22

alive. I'm alive and look what I get to

Melissa Amos: 00:19:26

do. Rather than, oh, I'm alive and look. What I've got to

Beth Hewitt: 00:19:29

do. Yeah, it's a good space to be in,

Beth Hewitt: 00:19:33

but to get there, we have to stop. Yeah, we have to

Melissa Amos: 00:19:37

stop. And it's available to everyone. It's not just available to special people.

Melissa Amos: 00:19:41

Everyone's a special people. You just got to learn who your kind of special

Melissa Amos: 00:19:44

is. And it starts with stopping and then just

Melissa Amos: 00:19:48

reevaluating. And this time of year is a great

Melissa Amos: 00:19:51

time to do that, to be like, okay,

Melissa Amos: 00:19:55

this is where I am, is this what I want? What do

Beth Hewitt: 00:19:59

I wear? Do I want to be over the. Next twelve months

Melissa Amos: 00:20:03

and then not feel like you just got to rush ahead and do it.

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:08

And take our time? That's a whole other conversation, isn't it?

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:12

It is. I love how you said start and you need to start

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:16

and stop. And then I got the image of

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:20

harking back to the beginning of the episode with the car with the

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:23

convertibles and everything come full circle.

Melissa Amos: 00:20:27

Love that. Our self heating,

Melissa Amos: 00:20:30

self working, self driving car. Well, that's what

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:34

it is, isn't it? It's like a self heating

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:38

in the sense of it's that comfortable space

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:41

cocoon. And then if it's self driving, it's

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:45

not that push energy, it's that energy of flow that's taking us to

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:49

our destination. And then we just get to decide

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:53

what that looks like, what model it is and what color it is and

Beth Hewitt: 00:20:57

how fast or slow the drive is. And what

Melissa Amos: 00:21:01

lanes we take and whether we go the fast road or the slow road

Melissa Amos: 00:21:04

and what then does need to happen. It really is a

Melissa Amos: 00:21:08

beautiful push pull

Melissa Amos: 00:21:11

thing. I'm nodding my head. It's like a kind of

Melissa Amos: 00:21:15

metronome, you know, there's this rhythm you can find.

Melissa Amos: 00:21:19

And I suppose if there's one thing that I'd love

Melissa Amos: 00:21:23

for any distance to take away from this is even if you're

Melissa Amos: 00:21:26

listening to this and quite likely looking at

Melissa Amos: 00:21:30

statistics, you're listening to this while you're in the car or while you're doing

Melissa Amos: 00:21:34

your chores or while you're whatever, walking.

Melissa Amos: 00:21:37

What if you just stopped and just allowed yourself, no matter who's around, put your

Melissa Amos: 00:21:41

headphones on and just go, I'm just sitting and I'm just listening. If not

Melissa Amos: 00:21:45

to us, to something else, or just to some nice

Melissa Amos: 00:21:48

relaxing music or whatever, and then maybe you

Melissa Amos: 00:21:52

still feel like you're doing something.

Melissa Amos: 00:21:56

It's like I started doing this brain entrainment with binaural

Melissa Amos: 00:21:59

beats and there's a regime

Melissa Amos: 00:22:03

with it. Three a day. And so when that second

Melissa Amos: 00:22:07

one, the first ones in the morning, last one's at night. But that second one,

Melissa Amos: 00:22:10

I'm like, I'm going to go and do my meditation.

Melissa Amos: 00:22:14

Yeah. And it's okay because I've got my headphones on. It's like, all right,

Melissa Amos: 00:22:17

mommy's busy and I'm just loving life. Sitting,

Melissa Amos: 00:22:21

listening to weird and wonderful

Melissa Amos: 00:22:25

music and sounds. And then I come back and then I'm like.

Melissa Amos: 00:22:28

And it's like having a brain massage. I feel all refreshed.

Beth Hewitt: 00:22:33

I have loved the conversation today. Me

Melissa Amos: 00:22:37

too. It feels like the right place to stop.

Beth Hewitt: 00:22:41

So we can recharge and do

Beth Hewitt: 00:22:45

fold onto the driver. Now we can

Melissa Amos: 00:22:49

recharge our car. Yeah. Plug it in. Yeah. I

Melissa Amos: 00:22:53

love the car, I think. Yeah, it's got legs,

Beth Hewitt: 00:22:57

but it's got wheels. Keep on rolling.

Beth Hewitt: 00:23:02

And who we put in the car with us, who we take on our

Beth Hewitt: 00:23:05

journeys with us. That'S a whole

Melissa Amos: 00:23:09

other conversation and that will be for next

Melissa Amos: 00:23:13

time. So we hope that you have enjoyed soul inspired

Melissa Amos: 00:23:17

you and we will see you again on the next riveting

Melissa Amos: 00:23:20

episode. See you soon.