Episode 13
Decoding Past Lives for a Contented Life
Show Summary:
- Get cozy and prepare to dive deep into today’s episode, number 13—a number close to our hearts and rich with symbolism.
- Today, we're exploring the profound messages tucked into Oracle card readings and unveiling the wisdom behind the "Past Lives" card, a mystical call to heal our karmic journeys and elevate our vibrations. Let's unravel how this ancient wisdom influences our present challenges and joys as we journey through the tapestry of life's moments.
- Join us as we ponder the power of defining moments and the acceleration of time with age, urging us to consciously craft the life stories we yearn to embody.
- We delve into the art of living true to ourselves, forgiving our past, and, crucially, shaping how we impact others with congruent values and energies.
- From motherhood to mundane moments, we reflect on the simplicity of contentment and the need to reframe our views on judgment and negativity. As we sift through life's myriad scents and sensory gifts, we find gratitude in the simplest pleasures, revealing how they stitch together the quilt of our experiences.
- Plus, we'll share with you our fascination with the mystique of Friday the 13th and its connection to the divine feminine—and of course, draw insights from today's joy-affirming Oracle card.
- As we count our blessings and welcome the sentiments shared through sight, smell, touch, taste, and sound, we invite you to contemplate—what makes you truly grateful?
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Transcript
Hello, Beth. How are you today? I'm good. Episode
Speaker:13, is it? Yeah. Oh, lucky
Speaker:13. Yeah, I like 13. Good number.
Speaker:Discovered in our last holiday that our hotel does
Speaker:not have a floor 13. I've heard that about a few
Speaker:hotels and our buildings that they don't have floor
Speaker:13. I quite like 13, though. I think it's. I like
Speaker:13 because it's funny because we sometimes we sit outside and we're, like, counting
Speaker:the thing. We're like, the floors don't make sense. Like, we know how many floors
Speaker:are in the hotel. Yeah. And we just discovered it, and they were like,
Speaker:why isn't there a 13? I was like, oh, do we go down this rabbit
Speaker:hole, kids? But I was born on the 14th and my house is 14,
Speaker:but I was nearly a 13 baby. My mum went into labor on the 13.
Speaker:And so thirteen's always been lucky in our
Speaker:family, or things have always happened around the 13th as well. So
Speaker:I like it. It's a good number. I like it. Friday the 13th is, like,
Speaker:meant to be one of the luckiest days of the year. Not everybody believes
Speaker:that. Oh, it's funny, isn't it? As well, a lot of.
Speaker:A lot of people who probably believe there is bad luck, like, where did
Speaker:that come from? Because do they actually fundamentally believe that, or is it just something
Speaker:that they've been. They've learned or has been passed down? And I
Speaker:did some research on that, actually. I just want to see when the next Friday
Speaker:the 13th is. Because wouldn't it be funny if it's like, when this
Speaker:episode launches? I know there's the Friday the 12th is the next
Speaker:one, so it might be. Anyway, so I did some research on this because I
Speaker:was like, why is why? And this was
Speaker:only Internet research, so I don't know how verifiable.
Speaker:There's the caveat there. This is not Britannia
Speaker:encyclopedia, but apparently the number 13
Speaker:represents the 13 moons of the year, and it's said to be the
Speaker:number of the divine feminine. And Friday
Speaker:is the day is Freya day, and it's the day when the women
Speaker:come and they gather. And traditionally, we would do our magic.
Speaker:And so when the Friday and the 13th came
Speaker:and collided, it was said to be a very powerful, strong day for
Speaker:women to conjure up the things that us women
Speaker:conjure up when we get together, whatever that might be. And
Speaker:there was certainly a time where women gathering was
Speaker:shrouded in superstition and
Speaker:some bright spark. I can't remember who it was
Speaker:or where it. I can't remember where the actual, where it all derived
Speaker:from. But it then became the superstition that Friday the 13th is
Speaker:unlucky and so we should all stay at home and stay
Speaker:behind closed doors in case, I don't know, you get
Speaker:some witchy spell. Yeah. Depends what side of the
Speaker:fence you're on, whether you're a witch poo or you're not a witch, because unlucky
Speaker:for some, but they lucky for really lucky. Not so much for you.
Speaker:I love that. So we both got our cards this
Speaker:morning. In fact, I've got a whole, like, I was just laying them out
Speaker:before you jumped on the call because I think I'm gonna have a, I'm gonna
Speaker:have an oracle day, I think. An oracle day. A day of
Speaker:cards. Best kind of day. I was doing a guest
Speaker:expert session in someone's group last week, and we
Speaker:were talking about oracle cards and
Speaker:how we can use them in the everyday. And you should have seen my desk
Speaker:afterwards. I must have had 15 decks just, just because showing
Speaker:them just quite how many different
Speaker:vibes you can get and depending on what you like or what you're working on
Speaker:or what you're asking or what kind of message, if you want something
Speaker:direct to the point, if you want something gentle and fluffy. So
Speaker:I've pulled out the Carl gray, angel guide. Oracle.
Speaker:I say I've pulled out. They were sitting next to me on the desk just
Speaker:as the call was starting, and I thought, let's pull a
Speaker:card. What should we pull the card about today's
Speaker:discussion? Yeah, let's do that. Let's do that.
Speaker:And I'll pull one to add to it.
Speaker:Okay. So I'm going to ask what we're going to talk about today
Speaker:that is going to benefit the listeners the most.
Speaker:Joy and contentment. This
Speaker:is a beautiful card of an angelic being
Speaker:standing in a field of long grass. And
Speaker:she's wearing a kind of
Speaker:reddy burnt orangey reds
Speaker:dress more like a sari, actually.
Speaker:And the sky looks like it's made
Speaker:of lavender fields and heather and very
Speaker:pretty magic portals. And
Speaker:whilst the card says on the bottom, joy and contentment. We
Speaker:were talking about this, weren't we, a couple of weeks ago? Yeah, because I literally
Speaker:was editing that episode last night. We
Speaker:were rolling a boulder up a hill and talking about yellow smarties
Speaker:and sunny and melon. She's got the sun there behind her
Speaker:and a reddish dress. So this is the joy and the contentment. Right.
Speaker:But look at her. She's not bouncing around like a
Speaker:jumpy. It is more that if you look at her face, she's
Speaker:got, it's not even like a big grin. She just
Speaker:looks like, yeah, life's good. Life's
Speaker:good. That looks like contentment to me. That looks like I'm comfortable
Speaker:here in this moment, stood still in
Speaker:my contentment. And
Speaker:that can really bring a form of
Speaker:joy that I think is more sustainable. I think if you said
Speaker:to somebody, oh, it was a joyous occasion, then
Speaker:you think of kind of moments of streaking
Speaker:delight. Yeah. I think a lot of us, this is what we're aiming
Speaker:for, this
Speaker:sustainable, stable.
Speaker:This sounds really boring, sustainable,
Speaker:safe. Just point
Speaker:of, like, our equilibrium point comes to
Speaker:this. It's like stillness. Yeah. It's like a
Speaker:nothingness, but isn't nothing. It's like a
Speaker:just, I don't know what. I think contentment is probably the perfect
Speaker:word for it. It just being happy in
Speaker:our lot, in the cards that we've been dealt in the life that we have,
Speaker:in the surroundings that we have, in everything.
Speaker:It's an acceptance. I've just looked at the
Speaker:dictionary. A state of happiness
Speaker:and satisfaction, freedom from worry or
Speaker:restlessness, of peaceful satisfaction, free from
Speaker:worry. That's part of the Reiki
Speaker:principles. Just for today, I will not worry. And I
Speaker:think the truth is that we are all human beings
Speaker:and worry things happen. We're not sure
Speaker:things are out of our control, but get to this space
Speaker:of peace. It just makes everything easier to deal
Speaker:with. Yeah. If we're able to accept
Speaker:that everything is always as it should
Speaker:be, then our life can become
Speaker:blissful. Yes, everything is as it should be.
Speaker:And what am I doing to feed into that, to
Speaker:add to that, to continue that, to fuel that
Speaker:joy and contentment. I like that. Shall I tell you what card we've pulled? And
Speaker:I pulled it, and I thought, we can talk about this when
Speaker:we do Oracle card readings, or when you do Oracle card readings, or when anybody's
Speaker:doing Oracle card readings, and especially when we start to learn
Speaker:how to use them and trust what's coming through, we can sometimes get
Speaker:a card and we're like, that's not the card that I want today. I'm
Speaker:going to put that back in the day, we might be doing a reading for
Speaker:somebody else, and we think that person doesn't want to hear that message. And we're
Speaker:really tempted to, like, get another card kind of thing. But we
Speaker:have to learn to trust that we're
Speaker:just the messenger, we're the channel for the
Speaker:message that needs to come through. And I still get surprised today,
Speaker:even I've done hundreds and thousands of readings for people now. And
Speaker:even now, when I trust
Speaker:there might have that first inclination of putting it back in the deck
Speaker:and chop another card, a softer card. But when I stick to that
Speaker:and read that and that person goes, oh, my goodness. And you're
Speaker:like, oh. Then you realize that the magic in it. So when
Speaker:just literally, then shove all the cards and this come out, I was like, how
Speaker:does this fit? And I was like, no, it does fit. Let's trust the process.
Speaker:Let's see what comes, comes through. You'll all be really intrigued to know what the
Speaker:card is now. Yes, no doubt.
Speaker:So the card that we have got is past
Speaker:lives. Wow. Release your past
Speaker:life karma. You are an old soul with deep wisdom.
Speaker:Healing your past lives will raise your vibration.
Speaker:And I'm wondering whether this speaks to
Speaker:maybe our listeners today who were talking about joy and contentment, who are maybe
Speaker:not feeling joy and contentment, who are not feeling
Speaker:that they're in that space, or they maybe feel like that's
Speaker:a bit of a stretch right now. And
Speaker:when we talk about past lives, there's a lot to unpack there,
Speaker:but it also can be part of that healing and
Speaker:letting go of things that might be holding us
Speaker:back from being joyful and
Speaker:content with who we are and where we are. So I don't
Speaker:know if anything's come through Mel, as I've been. Can you describe
Speaker:the card? I can. So we've got a,
Speaker:like a princess, maiden, beautiful,
Speaker:long, flowing hair, different colours, and she's
Speaker:beside a unicorn. And the unicorn is equally all. The
Speaker:unicorn's hair is also flowing, but is
Speaker:decorated. And the hair of the horse unicorn is
Speaker:very similar to her hair. It's almost like they're one. They're together. So it's a
Speaker:very flowy. It is, actually, if you look at her face, you can almost
Speaker:say that she has got a similar
Speaker:kind of look as the joy and contentment card in that she's not smiling,
Speaker:she's not jumping up and down, but she's just holding the unicorn
Speaker:and holding on for the ride.
Speaker:Yeah, perhaps she is. So
Speaker:it's beautiful, card. And for me, past lives
Speaker:are a massive subject, and I work with them
Speaker:a lot. I teach in the akashic records, and I've done
Speaker:many past life readings for others and for self. And there
Speaker:is always something in there
Speaker:that. That can answer a question or can
Speaker:give us more ideas about who we are and who we've been
Speaker:and how. What made us, like, what has built us
Speaker:into who we are in this present day. We are multidimensional beings,
Speaker:and we are so much more than what
Speaker:we think we are. And
Speaker:past lives, for me, are, yes, we can
Speaker:think of them as incidents. Oh, I was a victorian
Speaker:whatever, or I was a slave in Egypt, or I was a king or a
Speaker:queen or a pauper or whatever. And my truth is that we've
Speaker:been all of that. We've been all of that in our existence. There's going
Speaker:to be elements of us that have
Speaker:experienced all of those things, those whole myriad of things. I think this is part
Speaker:of the soul's journey. And within that,
Speaker:there's hardship and
Speaker:traumas, quite, almost definitely. There's also amazing
Speaker:moments of joy and love and strength and
Speaker:courage and happy times. And
Speaker:we were talking about this, actually in my akashic records training a couple
Speaker:of weeks ago, about how I led them all through this
Speaker:journey. And part of this journey was to help them discover
Speaker:the reason why they have been drawn
Speaker:to Kashik records. And actually, the whole
Speaker:feeling of it for most of the members were,
Speaker:oh, I found life where I was really empowered and
Speaker:strong. Yet I think generally when we speak
Speaker:about past lives, people think that we're going to pick out all the times where
Speaker:we were bludgeoned and betrayed
Speaker:and tricked and all of this. But that's
Speaker:a really tiny part of actually
Speaker:who we are. And I have seen that it can be
Speaker:the power moments and the bliss moments and the
Speaker:amazing relationships that we've had in the past past and the
Speaker:huge amounts of joy and love that we've experienced that can
Speaker:actually be as beneficial to relearn
Speaker:and remember as some of the. As some of the harder
Speaker:things. And one of the members in soul school
Speaker:was like, exclaimed on that she's, oh, I always thought that we go in
Speaker:and we find the bad stuff, we
Speaker:find the good stuff. I love that.
Speaker:I think, yeah, maybe we've been conditioned to believe that
Speaker:because history, all of the bad stuff that did happen
Speaker:and that we are in a more privileged position
Speaker:today, hopefully, that it only has to
Speaker:be bad or that we must have been less fortunate. But when you think
Speaker:about, often, even when we think about the nineties or the eighties,
Speaker:or we think of that as in a nostalgic way of actually
Speaker:it was easier and nicer and there must be be really
Speaker:big magical moments from the
Speaker:past where we had joined contentment because life
Speaker:was simpler. Like, we could just walk the fields and
Speaker:pick the flowers. Like this card, the card that I called,
Speaker:that's what she looks like. She could be in any century,
Speaker:in any country. She could be anywhere in the
Speaker:world in any timeline, because she is just in a field with nothing
Speaker:else apart from this quite magical sky.
Speaker:Actually, the sky looks quite like the hair on the
Speaker:unicorn. Look at the colors on the past
Speaker:lives. The hair, the purples, and even the
Speaker:sky. It's very similar in its
Speaker:mottled. Yeah. And so
Speaker:it's all connected. And, yes, we can, if we
Speaker:think back to our memories, you know, we talk about how life seems to be
Speaker:getting quicker as we get older. You know what that is? That we have less
Speaker:defining moments as we get older. When we're younger, we have so many
Speaker:firsts. The first time we walk, the first time we eat that certain
Speaker:meal. The first time I've been here, the first time I've heard that word.
Speaker:The first time I started year
Speaker:1234. The first time I went and did
Speaker:this move with my body. The first time I fell in love. The
Speaker:first time I had a heartbreak. The first time I
Speaker:had a best friend. Right? We had all of these first times, and
Speaker:they're big moments in our emotional. It's our emotional
Speaker:charge that makes a moment very big. And I've seen this in the
Speaker:Akashic records as well, that it's not just the incidents that
Speaker:happen that are just scored. It's when we have a strong
Speaker:emotional experience with it that the
Speaker:score turns into a paragraph, a chapter, or a whole book. You have a whole
Speaker:book on one day because of how intense it was.
Speaker:And so when we look back in our lives, it's those big moments
Speaker:that we remember. And as we get older and every
Speaker:day, things become very familiar, and we have our
Speaker:routines and we're seeing the same thing. Life seems to be going
Speaker:quicker because we don't have so many defining moments.
Speaker:What if we did? What if every month we went,
Speaker:this month, I'm going to have a defining moment. This month I'm going to do
Speaker:something. If not for the first time, I'm going to look at it for the
Speaker:first time. What if we actually
Speaker:decided that we were going to continue to grow
Speaker:and learn? Because I think the more we learn, the more we grow. And as
Speaker:long as we're still learning, we're still living. Yeah, exactly. There's
Speaker:more to learn. There's more to do. I think
Speaker:that it's exactly that. It's asking
Speaker:ourselves, what do we want to do next? What are those defining moments that we
Speaker:want to create for ourselves? Because I think we can get to a certain point
Speaker:in life, and we just. We're literally going with the flow. We've
Speaker:got the house, we've got the career, we've got the business, maybe to a certain
Speaker:point. We've got the friendship circles, we've got the family. And what do we
Speaker:want to do next? How do we want to be spending our time? What
Speaker:do we want to learn? Who else do we want to meet? What do we
Speaker:want to create? And unless we stop and ask ourselves that
Speaker:question, then we are just going to go through the motions
Speaker:every week. But we literally got a blank canvas at any moment and
Speaker:we can twist and change and do whatever we want to do.
Speaker:And that's why I love working with visions, but not
Speaker:just creating one vision, refining it and re looking at it
Speaker:and just checking in and saying, is that actually what you want to do? Because
Speaker:often we'll think, oh, I want the big house, and I want to go on
Speaker:lots of holidays. But actually, it's finding the joy and contentment, isn't it?
Speaker:It's actually, do I just want to go for nice long walks
Speaker:in nature? Is that what I want to do more of? Do I want to
Speaker:be painting? Do I want to read? Do I want to connect? Do I just
Speaker:want to have conversations? Do I want to spend more time with my family?
Speaker:Yeah, I suppose there's that
Speaker:risk. Is it a risk? I don't know that. If we're
Speaker:sitting there and we're just so content now, I'm not going to change anything now.
Speaker:Just keep everything the same, just in case it
Speaker:all goes away. Life is for growing.
Speaker:Now, here's an interesting exercise for us all to
Speaker:do. What if we lived our life
Speaker:the way that we wanted to remember it? Some of the
Speaker:work that I've done through past life
Speaker:healing is we think it's when we've been
Speaker:bludgeoned and betrayed. Right. That's going to have the big impact.
Speaker:Quite often the big impact is when we've made
Speaker:a decision that we regret, right? We did
Speaker:something. We were this person, we think as everyone else. Then we're like,
Speaker:oh, it was me. I made this decision. Look
Speaker:who I impacted. Guilt. And
Speaker:again, this was something that surprised me when I first discovered it. It was
Speaker:like, wow, that is more powerful than forgiving the person
Speaker:that hit me over the head. It's actually
Speaker:forgiving me for hitting someone else over the head.
Speaker:And so every day we make decisions. Sometimes they're
Speaker:good, sometimes they're questionable. Sometimes they're done
Speaker:in fear or in anger or in
Speaker:scarcity or because we don't know we're always doing the best we
Speaker:can, always doing the best we can with what we've got. But when we
Speaker:start to understand that, okay, maybe one day I'm going to be reviewing this
Speaker:life, my next life. If I had to come and review this
Speaker:one, what can I just sort out now so I don't have to bring it
Speaker:with me in the next time? Oh, I like that. Yeah. What can we
Speaker:get rid of right now in this moment? I don't want to come into my
Speaker:next life and go, oh, look at, oh, my God. I had all of those
Speaker:opportunities and I was just too scared to take
Speaker:them. That might be true. I might be scared to take them,
Speaker:and it is scary to take them often. But what if
Speaker:I could just go, well, you know what? For this once, I'm just going to
Speaker:see what happens and I'm going to score that in my record, and that's going
Speaker:to be for this week anyway. My truth. I'm going to take a
Speaker:risk or I'm going to just find that little bit of courage to have that
Speaker:conversation or to put that offer out or to share my
Speaker:opinion on something or to wear the outfit that
Speaker:I had my eye on for so long, it can
Speaker:be those simple moments, but then we continue to
Speaker:grow. And then when we come back and review our month or our
Speaker:year or our decade, or as I've been doing, we've just had the leap year
Speaker:over the last four years. And you think, wow,
Speaker:like, I've really done some things now.
Speaker:It's interesting. So I've been reviewing these four weeks, these four
Speaker:years, and now I'm thinking, what do I want to be reviewing
Speaker:in the next four years? How do I
Speaker:want that to, what do I want to look at
Speaker:in hindsight?
Speaker:And do you know what's really interesting? I just got to the chapter of
Speaker:Outlander or the section, and it's called
Speaker:hindsight. Is it really? Yeah.
Speaker:Just flashed before my eyes. I was crying in my bed last
Speaker:night reading the book, how do I want to live? And it doesn't mean
Speaker:it has to be all of the big moments. It could be just
Speaker:the telling my child how special he
Speaker:is and holding his little hand and just taking a moment, looking at his little
Speaker:fingernails. It can be that there's joy
Speaker:and contentment in that and maybe that will
Speaker:spur us on to do something and to live a life that is
Speaker:great, that we consider great.
Speaker:Yeah. It's funny because I had a very similar thought
Speaker:about motherhood and just how when you think of what is my purpose and
Speaker:actually I think being a really good mum is something
Speaker:that brings me such joy and contentment. Just to think that I've done
Speaker:a good job or hopefully I've done a good job. But then it was also
Speaker:thinking I should really tell my mum that she's also been a really
Speaker:good mum because we don't always hear it. We have mother's days coming up, isn't
Speaker:it? And we get the card and we get the flowers. But actually
Speaker:there's something very special about being a mum and
Speaker:knowing that you've done a good job or at least you've tried to do your
Speaker:best. And then I was thinking I should definitely tell my mum more
Speaker:that she's been a good, good mum because if I want to hear
Speaker:it, then I'm sure my mum would want to hear it. Yeah.
Speaker:And maybe that's also part of it. Maybe this joy and contentment isn't
Speaker:just about me feeling it. How do I
Speaker:pass that on to the other people around me? Somebody
Speaker:said in a call the other day they were talking about
Speaker:me and they were like, when I'm with Melanie, I just feel
Speaker:calm and centered. I can just be with her for
Speaker:an hour. I'm like, I am so chill and I'm like,
Speaker:oh, I love that. Because I remember, I
Speaker:distinctly remember when I was a teenager there was this girl that
Speaker:I had met. I don't even know
Speaker:how we met, but she came part of our circle and whenever I
Speaker:was with her and it wasn't just me, whenever people were with
Speaker:her, they just came away feeling really good
Speaker:and I was just, and I'd look at her and I'd be like, how does
Speaker:she make people feel so good? And I was
Speaker:like, I want that. I want to do that. I want to be the one
Speaker:that when they're with me, I want to feel good. And she was like, we
Speaker:were the same age. I think we must have been 18, I don't know, 16
Speaker:1718 and I was like, I just,
Speaker:and obviously maybe I took that on and it's quite
Speaker:easy to forget and it's not
Speaker:about putting on a mask and being a wet lettuce or anything.
Speaker:She definitely, she had her boundaries. She was awesome. I wonder what she's doing
Speaker:now. Making people feel good everywhere she goes, I'm sure.
Speaker:But maybe this is it. Maybe it's. How do I. Whether it's a child, a
Speaker:partner, a parent, a colleague, a
Speaker:client, maybe the person in the
Speaker:supermarket. Yeah. I think
Speaker:for other people to feel that way, you have to
Speaker:be, you have to be that person, you have to
Speaker:feel. So she must have felt really good or she must have had those
Speaker:values and all of that inside her. Because equally,
Speaker:when a second ago we were talking the image
Speaker:of, in the colour purple, the original colour purple, when is it?
Speaker:Nettie? I always get their characters mix up, but Nettie, the whoopi Goldberg
Speaker:character, when she's. She's getting her kind of comeuppance and she's
Speaker:saying goodbye to that husband and sending him on his way kind of thing. She
Speaker:says, everything you've done to me, I'll paraphrase him, but everything done
Speaker:to me, he's already done to you. Like all of the her, all of the
Speaker:negative things that he had done ever to her in his
Speaker:and her lifetime was done to
Speaker:him. So everything that we do, every
Speaker:action that we take, if we want to have that
Speaker:impactful energy, if we want
Speaker:to impact people in really positive ways, then we have
Speaker:to also to be that person, we have to feel that. We have to
Speaker:be that person inside so that energetically, on the outside,
Speaker:people can feel. Right. And that's why we were
Speaker:talking another episode ago when we walked down the dark alley
Speaker:and we're scanning for danger that if
Speaker:we're not incongruent, if we're saying one thing, but we're meaning another thing,
Speaker:if we're saying all the nice things, we're being. I get that kind of mean
Speaker:girl vibe where you're saying all the right things to make people
Speaker:think that you're nice, but underneath you're really seeing that you don't actually like this
Speaker:other person. It's that mismatch of energies of who do you want to
Speaker:be, actually, and whoever you are being. And sometimes
Speaker:it's not who you want to be. Sometimes, if you're not being a nice person,
Speaker:you're not being a nice person. Right. If you've been a good person, you're being
Speaker:a good person. But, and we're always doing the best we can with what
Speaker:we know. We recognize that
Speaker:it's often easier to recognize it in someone else. And I started this saying about
Speaker:the. When we're in the Akashic records, we think it's when we've been bludgeoned over
Speaker:the head. That is an easier
Speaker:conversation to have with yourself. I got bludgeoned over the head because,
Speaker:blah, blah, blah. And I'm going to forgive him. Probably you did the
Speaker:same thing. But in that moment, when you forgive him for doing
Speaker:that, you're also forgiving yourself for doing the same thing. Because what you're
Speaker:doing is you're understanding it from another point of view,
Speaker:and you're understanding it from, we're always doing the best we can with what we've
Speaker:got. Now, if I'm being mean to somebody, we've all been through high
Speaker:school, and I don't know where you are, but certainly where I was,
Speaker:the mean girls was the place to be, and
Speaker:you were either in it or out of it. And we've all done
Speaker:things that weren't very nice. But what's that
Speaker:stemmed from? It stemmed from fear, and it stemmed from the
Speaker:fear of not belonging or the dog eat dog world that we're
Speaker:told that we is literally our nature.
Speaker:When we begin to heal that in us, then suddenly
Speaker:what feels better is maybe this girl that I met, maybe
Speaker:she taught me that what feels better is making
Speaker:somebody feel good than actually
Speaker:feeling good by putting somebody else down. Yeah.
Speaker:They both make you feel good in the
Speaker:moment, right? They do.
Speaker:It's like an adrenaline here. But then the other option
Speaker:leaves a bad taste in your mouth, and then it leaves you with all of
Speaker:the other things, and it starts a whole nother spiral. And so it
Speaker:always comes back to, well, what about me? How do I bring that? What is
Speaker:in me that feels the need to be mean, to
Speaker:say nice things, to have that judgment? I used to be really judgy.
Speaker:I used to judge everything. And I heard myself one
Speaker:day, and I was doing a lot of my shadow work and a lot of
Speaker:stuff on the spiritual, starting to understand myself
Speaker:better, and it was something that I just caught myself
Speaker:thinking. I wasn't even saying it was going on in my internal language, and I
Speaker:was like, wow, Melissa, come on. So
Speaker:what? Let them be like, so what? Like, I literally was
Speaker:like, oh, my. I didn't even hear it. It was so part of
Speaker:that internal dialogue. Yeah. And then I started to recognize it loads in
Speaker:other people, and then I was judging them for judging other people. So that was
Speaker:a whole fun thing. And anyway. And it still comes up. There's still
Speaker:this. Yeah, exactly. We're all human, right? We all capacity to
Speaker:be everything we. Do, and we just need
Speaker:to not need to. For me, what I found really
Speaker:helps is just having that compassion because of
Speaker:this steady vibe of this contentment. Like, it's okay. I know
Speaker:that I'm not a bad person. I know that no one is.
Speaker:What can I do to make it better? What's in me that really
Speaker:feels like it needs that
Speaker:adrenaline hit, that. It needs that. I can't accept that in me. And
Speaker:it always comes back. And you know what? When we do that, that is the
Speaker:most empowering thing that we can do for ourselves. It's not
Speaker:easy. It helps to have somebody there with you,
Speaker:guiding you through. We can do it on our own.
Speaker:We can do it with books, some great books out there. But this is it.
Speaker:It comes back to. Right, what we were saying at the beginning.
Speaker:It's. As long as we're learning, we're growing. Yeah.
Speaker:Maybe to close the episode. Maybe
Speaker:if we could just give one tip for helping people back
Speaker:to contentment and joy. How do we find contentment
Speaker:and joy? How do we find. It's like the
Speaker:miracle elixir, the Holy Grail.
Speaker:Yeah. Or maybe it's not find. It's. Maybe it's just getting back
Speaker:to that equilibrium.
Speaker:I'm going to give you the stock answer, because this is really what's coming
Speaker:in, because it doesn't matter where you are on the vibrational
Speaker:scale, on the emotional scale, if you can find one thing that you're
Speaker:grateful for, if you can just be there and go, do you know
Speaker:what? Life sucks. And all of these horrible
Speaker:things are happening to me, and I hate it.
Speaker:But I have shoes on my feet
Speaker:and they are letting me walk, and this walk is helping me
Speaker:even 1% to clear my head. And I am so grateful
Speaker:for these healthy feet that I have and these
Speaker:lovely shoes, even if they're ripped apart.
Speaker:Four. Stick with the four. Right. I am grateful for this
Speaker:four because. And really land into that. It
Speaker:can be anything. I am grateful for this photograph
Speaker:of my child that sits on there smiling at me,
Speaker:no matter what it is that's going on, because it reminds me of the
Speaker:innocence of childhood and just come into it and it
Speaker:will just help to shift
Speaker:you. Yes. The stuff's still going on. This is not the
Speaker:holy grail that's going to change the whole world, but it will
Speaker:change how you see it. For the moment,
Speaker:I'd start there, and. You know how I feel about
Speaker:gratitude, because it has. It is so impactful, and
Speaker:I think some people think it isn't as impactful as it is until
Speaker:you start focusing on it. I would just add
Speaker:to that that you can, if you can take
Speaker:each of the senses and identify
Speaker:with each of those senses, something that you can be
Speaker:grateful for, something that you might like looking at. Is it the
Speaker:sunset? Is it going to an art gallery? Is
Speaker:it seeing your favourite people? What smells do you like?
Speaker:What really brings that sensation back? Is it the cut grass?
Speaker:Is it the sea breeze? Is it your favourite cookies,
Speaker:things that you can touch, those different textures. Maybe it's
Speaker:having a duvet or that nice, warm,
Speaker:cozy coat. What feelings and
Speaker:emotions do you really love? Can you really feel it into
Speaker:joy and contentment? Do you know what that is? And can you
Speaker:conjure up those images in your mind and
Speaker:sounds? What sounds do you love
Speaker:that bring you that sense of happiness? Is
Speaker:it children playing in the school
Speaker:playground? Is it the sound of
Speaker:a friend that you haven't heard at the end of the phone for a while?
Speaker:If you can really hone in on
Speaker:gratitude from a sense's point of view, you start to
Speaker:ignite even more sensation that pulls you closer to joy
Speaker:and contentment. I love that. I just want to ask you
Speaker:one thing, because scent is such a
Speaker:strong sense of. What
Speaker:smell? What scent can someone reach
Speaker:for? Do you think, in your opinion,
Speaker:that brings you that? Either that joy or that contentment?
Speaker:I think it's impossible for me to say that, because
Speaker:everybody's sense of smell is different. Some people have got really strong sense of
Speaker:smell and some people haven't, and everybody's. If we think
Speaker:that smells are connected to memories,
Speaker:and it would be impossible for me to pick out a smell for
Speaker:somebody else, because who am I to know what amazing
Speaker:memories they have had and what that means to them?
Speaker:I would say my sense of smell is probably one of my
Speaker:weakest for. Isn't it interesting how we experience the world around
Speaker:us in any one moment is through any one of our five senses
Speaker:or our six intuitive sense as well, right? So
Speaker:we have to create
Speaker:a similar experience. So for
Speaker:me, I love. What smells do I love? I love cut grass.
Speaker:I love that smell of cut grass. I love.
Speaker:I like lavender. My daughter
Speaker:really dislikes lavender, but I love lavender. That's quite calming for
Speaker:me. What else do I love? Like
Speaker:bacon. Smells like nice bread.
Speaker:I'm wondering from a past life whether the honey and the bread smells were
Speaker:like, oh, yeah, food or lavender. When we're getting rid of
Speaker:illnesses and weird enough, the plague or whatever, lavender was
Speaker:used. So, yeah, it's interesting, isn't it?
Speaker:I don't know. Do you have a smell sensation?
Speaker:Yeah. I cannot be in synthetic smells.
Speaker:It makes me literally, my body goes poison.
Speaker:It's mad. So I have a very large essential
Speaker:oil and candle and incense collection, and they're all
Speaker:really yummy. But for the joy and contentment, I'm going to have
Speaker:to find what is in that handle. I've got this specific
Speaker:candle. It's one from a company called Witch in the wheel.
Speaker:She does candles for each of the turning of the wheels. So,
Speaker:like, in bulk is the one I've got going on at the moment.
Speaker:But there was one that she, she for
Speaker:contentment, the yule. She did one for yule.
Speaker:And it was like, oh, I just used to come in here in my
Speaker:room and just light it and just be like, ah,
Speaker:just all my senses. So I will find
Speaker:out. Maybe we can put it in the show notes, which in the
Speaker:wheel, the yule candle, the
Speaker:inbolt one, they're all delicious. The Halloween one, the sewing
Speaker:one is gorgeous as well. If I need a
Speaker:quick pick me up, I love the citrus grapefruit. It's one of
Speaker:grapefruit or orange. Sweet orange. I love that. I often dab a
Speaker:bit of orange essential oil, just like on my bra. And it's just there,
Speaker:like, keeping me buoyant through
Speaker:contentment. I'm gonna say
Speaker:something more woody, like
Speaker:sandalwood. And it's very exotic. So, yeah,
Speaker:there's. I use, I do work with my sense of smell a lot,
Speaker:and I find that it really can flip
Speaker:my mood quite quick. Yeah, I do love
Speaker:an essential oil. Just use them if you're going to use them, just use them
Speaker:sensibly and reliably and obviously
Speaker:ethically. Yeah. Well, another fascinating
Speaker:podcast episode. We should do more of the card pulls
Speaker:and seeing where the conversation goes. I enjoyed today's episode,
Speaker:listeners, if you. Love the card pools, let us know your favorite decks
Speaker:as well. Maybe I'll buy a new one, who knows? Yeah, let
Speaker:us know if you like that because we'd love to bring more of that in.
Speaker:And I just also want to close this with a huge thank you to all
Speaker:the listeners and all the support. It's been amazing
Speaker:just seeing you podcast spread around the world.
Speaker:And some of you are sharing with your friends and listening
Speaker:to every episode when they download on a Friday. And
Speaker:it touches my heart to know that these words are hitting
Speaker:yours. Yeah. Thank you, guys. Okay, until next
Speaker:time. I'll see you soon. Bye bye,
Speaker:Melissa.
