Mastering Mercury Retrograde with Gratitude

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audioMelissaAmos11063558080:

We are just going into Mercury

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shadow as we record this.

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Literally yesterday, Mercury came into

its shadow before it's retrograde.

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Now, if you don't know, Mercury retrograde

is this elusive phenomenon where the

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planet Mercury, which is in charge of

communication, electronics, the things

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that we say, the technologies that we

use and is it three, sometimes four

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times a year, it has this illusion

that Mercury is going backwards.

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And the rumor has it that when that

happens, technology goes wild and it's

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unreliable and not only that, but things,

anything to do with communication.

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So things can get misunderstood.

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You find that, if you're, they

say, if you're booking travel,

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you should check everything.

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All five times, if you're signing

legal documents, if you're sending

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a text message, like anything that

has to do with communication, travel

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and technology is on the wire.

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What happens the first time ever, we

just logged on my internet nuts and

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I had to have a full on to re reset.

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audioBethHewitt21063558080:

these things happen, right?

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But yeah, we've never, that was

the first time, is it, that we've

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ever had to restart in our however

many episodes that we've done.

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But just as you were, so you

were, you went off, offline,

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you went to reset your internet.

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I thought I'll just pull some

cards and I'll pull the cards

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that are in the sort of house.

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I'm using the Prism Oracle card

deck ones, and these are quite,

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they're like one word cards.

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They're very instructional and

directional and two cards flew

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out of the deck straight away.

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Like they're just pew.

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The first one was stop.

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Stop what you're doing.

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Turn off.

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Turn off the internet.

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The second one was trust.

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Because I think.

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We can, or we could have got Oh,

we're not meant to do it today.

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Or it's not working.

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It's never going to work.

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Whatever kind of thoughts we might have.

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But instead it's no, stop,

trust what is happening.

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Trust that, what we're about to

do is going to be even better.

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And then the third card, which didn't

jump out, but I thought I'll just pull a

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third one just for good measure, was flow.

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So stop, trust, flow.

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And I feel like that's the energy that

We've moved into, and you can say that

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you could use that almost as a philosophy

if, you're going traveling or you're about

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to have a really difficult conversation

with somebody or there's potential

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that communications could get crossed.

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Or even you're trying some new technology

for the first time, maybe like this

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is your first podcast that you've

ever listened to and like you've never

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pressed the buttons on your phone to

listen to it or listen to it on your

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laptop, whatever for the first time.

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And sometimes I think, just stop.

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Just trust and just move into the flow are

pretty good words to live by, especially

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when we're going into retrograde because

things are going to happen, right?

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Yeah.

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audioMelissaAmos11063558080:

we do live in a world where it,

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where doing has been prized.

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We have to do, things have to flow,

things have to move, you have to

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strive, you have to struggle, you

have to go do, what did you do today?

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What do you do for a living?

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This is the language that we use.

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And it can get like super

overwhelming to the system.

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And then we feel like when we

want to stop that we're failing in

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some way or another and that we're

broken in some way or another.

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But just like your computer, like how many

people don't ever turn their phone off?

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You need to, right?

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Like your phone keeps on going

and then suddenly you're like it's

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been a bit slow and you give it a

turn off and a turn back on again.

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And then things just seem better

and that trust card is, It's so

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important because in the stop was

when we have a real potency energy.

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And how many of us, when we're in the stop

think, Oh no, it's not going to happen.

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I stopped.

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It's things have come to a halt.

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Nobody loves me anymore.

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Nobody cares.

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This is awful.

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I'm, I'm destitute and

everything's all wet.

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This is going to be

what it is like forever.

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And what I just did when

I turned the internet off.

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So I have one of those.

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link machines because I, my studio is in

my garden and I just gave my link machine

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a bit of raking and it was boiling hot.

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It was hot.

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And I'm like that's obviously

not been turned off for a while.

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So I just stood there and I was like,

Oh, thank you so much for all the amazing

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conversations you've helped me facilitate.

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And so much has me sitting here

using my laptop on the internet.

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And it's thanks to that.

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Device because it used to be

before I had that device, my

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internet dropped all the time.

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So it was just coming into that

gratitude and the trust that, you

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know, what if it doesn't work?

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It's because something else is

meant to be occurring today.

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Or maybe I'm just meant

to not be doing anything

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audioBethHewitt21063558080: and you'd be

very grateful listeners because we were

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talking about the weather before the

Before we got going, so we clearly meant

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to talk about something more profound.

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I love that you talk to inanimate

objects because I do too.

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I talk to my printer my printer's

he never lets me down, but I think

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that's because I, he's got a name.

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I love him.

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I talk to him.

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I'll say, Thank you so

much for printing that.

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Wonderful.

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Thank you for squeezing all of that ink

out and making that really colourful.

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And I know that today's going to be

used because my daughter's doing her

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she's doing some work for her university

course and she needs the printer today.

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I've had to wake him up this morning.

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I used to do it when I worked in offices.

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I used to talk to all of the printers

and the heaters and people used to think

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I was mad, but, they very rarely broke

down on me and printers are renowned

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for breaking down or, used to say,

okay, we're going to get you a new part.

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We're going to get you a new part, Harry.

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We're going to get you a new part.

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You deserve a new part.

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You need some new toner.

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We're going to get you some new toner.

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And I'm glad that you also talk to

inanimate objects because that makes

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me feel a little bit less crazy.

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audioMelissaAmos11063558080: so the

internet, when we got the new internet

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a few years ago, they were like,

Oh, because you can change the name

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of it and what should we call it?

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And I was like, let's call it Bob.

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And so our internet's called Bob.

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And so when we sign into the

internet, it's called Bob.

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And then when we set up, I'm not going

to take the password, but when we

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set the password, it's all initials.

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It's like the first

letter of an affirmation.

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about how well the internet

works and how thankful I am the

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internet always works so well.

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And so when I'm remembering the

password, I literally have to say

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that affirmation because I'm, I don't

remember what the letters are, but

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I remember what the sentence is.

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That sent me down a little rabbit

hole because it's things like when,

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I know we don't always type passwords

in, but having little affirmative

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stuff on your passwords, like it just.

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It just brings a little bit like

there's what there's one password

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that I use and every time I type

it, it just like it makes me laugh.

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And I'm like, it's funny I'm like

oh I know what one I did there.

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And it just brings that little moment

of joy, and this kind of reframe in

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your brain where you're literally

saying thank you for my amazing internet

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that always works all of the time.

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As you're trying to inevitably typing

a thing in because your internet has

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audioBethHewitt21063558080: Yeah.

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It's such a great tip especially with

passwords, because, we can, passwords can

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be quite, it's a little bit like driving

in the car when you get road rage, like

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passwords can infuriate you when you put

the password in a number of times and then

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you don't get, you still don't get in.

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So to have a password that is an

affirmation, It's just like a great life

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audioMelissaAmos11063558080: right?

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It's all about the life hacks.

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And no, I was even thinking about

this morning because yesterday I

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had my soul space coaching call.

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And my members could come

and they can bring anything.

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And we, we talk about a

whole range of things.

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And actually a lot of what was

coming up was how do we bring

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more joy into our life every day?

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And I was thinking about how actually

that's become such a habit for

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me and it's not the big things.

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And yesterday we were talking

more about the big things, but

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it's not really the big things.

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It's the little things like when.

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When I walk home, there's

this huge lavender bush.

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I'm not a thief, right?

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But there's this huge lavender bush

that we walk past and I always just

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pick three or four little sprigs

of lavender and I like smell it and

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I'm like, Oh, it's just so nice.

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And the kids do it.

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And then I bring it home and

I always think I must look

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like a crazy with my lavender.

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All of the time, but it's just these kind

of little things and the sun was shining.

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I'm not going to talk about

the weather, but the sun was

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shining and I could just feel it.

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And I just turned my head as

I'm walking so that the sun

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was beating on my third eye.

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And it was, and I just brought

that gratitude for the light codes

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that are pouring down on me today.

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And in that moment, I feel such I

don't know what the word is, like joy.

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We spoke about joy and is it a

happy thing, but just this gratitude

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and this warmth and this joy for

being here and being alive and

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being able to experience that.

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And that, if I think back in my life,

it's a habit that I've had to cultivate.

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And I think it's one of those

really important hacks in life

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we spend most of our day the

things that we don't want to do.

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audioBethHewitt21063558080: Yeah.

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Absolutely.

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It's that aliveness.

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It is.

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It's that connection to, and you feeling

all of your senses, feeling the sun

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on your face and feeling the breeze.

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And it is a little bit, I think when

we can appreciate the little things,

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that's when it's, it starts to snowball.

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If we can't appreciate the five.

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Pounds to 5 and how can we appreciate

the 50, 000 it's all the same thing.

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And that's why I do the gratitude

journey four times a year and I,

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sometimes I feel like I can't impress

how important gratitude is for our lives.

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I do still feel like a lot of people,

I'm trying to do, make my little waves

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in my area of the world and the internet.

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And the people that come on board and

do the gratitude, they, I call them

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my boomerangs because they come back.

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Because it is, it's contagious.

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It's uplifting, it changes your vibration,

it changes your point of attraction, it

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changes your point of perspective, and you

can start to be appreciative and grateful.

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For the teeny tiny small things and the

things that you didn't even realize that

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you needed to be grateful for not that

you need but that you could be grateful

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for because We might think they're just

small moments in time and that we don't

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need to reflect on them or we don't

need to think about what the power in

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That moment was but when we do what?

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It's essentially a spiritual stock take.

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It's not just giving gratitude every day.

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So it's literally looking at all of

the different facets of your life and

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finding all of those areas where you

can give gratitude and appreciation.

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And the impact is so profound.

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It's just, it permeates every part of.

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your body and who you are and

what you're doing in the world.

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And the impact that it has on

what you're creating in the future

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is starting from such a, just a

positive, joyful bedrock of gratitude.

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And like you say, you have to

cultivate that, we have to practice it.

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And that's why I do it

repeatedly because life happens.

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They're going to be difficult

things that happen in our life.

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We have the ups and downs and It's having

the tools when we're in those moments

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to give ourselves some space to, you

don't need to be happy clappy all of

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the time, but if we can find a little

nugget of happiness in the darkness, then

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we're on that first rung of the ladder.

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audioMelissaAmos11063558080: Right.

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This is I think the true thing about how

we're told to lift our vibration like

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don't get stuck in the harder emotions.

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And I think it's been misinterpreted.

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a lot that, okay, it means that I

have to turn my frown upside down

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and after, I can't feel these things.

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And if I do, then that means that I'm

going to start manifesting the stuff

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that, that I don't want in my life.

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It, for me, it's more about first

of all, changing the baseline.

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So what's the, what is my actual baseline?

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And I know that there were times

where my baseline was like down

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in apathy, That just seemed to

be like where I would default.

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And now even when there's

things that are hard, right?

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And you're going through something and

you're like, this is not You can hold that

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emotion and we can still somewhere find,

as we're walking down the street and the

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sun shines and we think, Ah, there's light

codings in there and I'm going to turn

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my head and just enjoy that for a moment.

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Even when this is going on and

this is happening and I'm going

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to be grateful for my body that's

allowed me to move and do this.

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And if my body is working as it should

be that, but I'm still finding that I

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can listen to the thing that's healing

or that somebody's reached out for me.

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It's like still honoring what I'm feeling,

what I'm feeling, what I'm feeling.

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And there is this practice, there is

these things, there's something else and

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sometimes it is just a case of turning

your head into that so you can allow

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yourself to feel that emotion because in

that moment, your vibration is raising.

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And then the thing that you're moving

through, the thing that we feel like

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we're stuck in, we actually begin to move

through and then that thing gets met with.

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A moment of joy, a moment of

gratitude, a moment of peace, a moment

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of acceptance, a moment of hope,

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and I think that is how

we raise our vibration.

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It's not Oh this is really bad.

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And I'm in grief.

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I better not be in grief.

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I better be in joy.

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It's not sustainable.

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audioBethHewitt21063558080: And sometimes

it can feel like you're really reaching,

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like it's really difficult to see.

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Yeah.

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And sometimes it's that we're the light

in the world, in all the darkness.

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It's us that are actually the light

and that is about come back to us.

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Grateful to be alive and to be breathing

and to be able to feel the emotions,

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however deep and difficult they are.

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But something happens.

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I don't know if I've told this

story on the podcast before, or

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even if you know this story, but

I've always practiced gratitude.

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It really came back into focus when

my daughter was in an accident.

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back in 2016.

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And

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she had an accident with a horse and she

lost a lot of teeth and she had a lot of

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facial surgery to reconstruct everything.

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It was a really difficult time.

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And For the first few days of that

experience, I was just in the moment.

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I was just being the support, I was doing

what I could, you're just running on

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adrenaline, you're not really thinking

about, I'm not thinking about gratitude,

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I'm not thinking about all of that.

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But then over a couple of days and as

things started to settle down and we

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got into a bit of a routine and you've

got your family support network around

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you, there was just like a literal

moment in time when I'm laid there

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at the side of her on the bed, when

I just started to look, this, because

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I'd, cultivate a gratitude previously

because I'd built up my gratitude

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muscles to some extent previously.

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Granted I wasn't practicing gratitude

to the extent that I am today

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but I knew what gratitude was.

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There was just a moment and this thought

dropped into my head and I started to

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look around the room and look around

the experience and kind of revisit

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my day to find those moments of joy.

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And it was things like the smile that

the the nurses had when they saw Leah

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being able to drink through a straw

for the first time, or the smile on

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Leah's face when she tasted chocolate

milk for the first time, or the just

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appreciation for the NHS and for air

ambulances to get us to the hospital.

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And.

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the love of family to support us.

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And I remember saying in that moment

that, I don't know why this has happened.

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And.

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I know that we're not deserving of

this to happen to us, but I know

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that there'll be a bigger, there's

a bigger something going on here.

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There's something else

that's coming from this.

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And just being able to, I think

I found maybe about 10, 10,

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15 things to be grateful for.

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And just that ability to start

to document that, to write

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It shifts the needle in the brain

to, and it moves us into action

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a little bit more of, okay.

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I'm starting to feel a bit

more hopeful about the future.

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And we've got the support, we've

got the help that we need right now.

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unfold, but it started getting us to

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think as a family about how gratitude was

now going to play a part in our life and

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what that was going to allow us to do.

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And all of a sudden, so my

daughter who she played violin,

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she still plays violin, but.

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play the violin because she couldn't

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hold, literally, couldn't hold the violin

between her shoulder and under her chin.

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But she asked her, she

music was her thing, right?

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Music was her life.

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She loves music, still loves

music deeply, so she asked if she

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could learn to play the piano.

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to learn, so now she plays the

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piano and she plays violin.

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still take part in her end of year, she

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was at primary school at this point,

and she wanted to still take part in

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the end of year school play, but she

couldn't speak at this point, but she

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still wanted to be part of it, because

she'd always wanted to be part of it,

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and she wasn't going to let that go.

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visualization to, to think about, what

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would she want to do in the school play

and how would she want things to be?

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that visualization piece, we were able

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to start to develop a bit of a plan so

that we could work with the school and

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work with the teachers and find a way for

her to have a part in the school play.

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initial stem of gratitude, raising

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our vibration, And creating a vision

around what we want to do for the

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future, and then starting to take

even teeny tiny action steps to

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move us up or through or out of a

situation that we find ourselves in.

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I think it gets, I think

gratitude gets a bit of a bad rap.

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I think a lot of people know what

gratitude is, they know the benefits

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of that, but it's almost like it's not,

Oh, it's a bit too airy fairy or yeah,

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I'm not gonna waste my time doing that

because I've got all of these other

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things on my to do list and it's just,

That was the most intense experience

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that I had with the power of gratitude.

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and what powerful transformations

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it had, I just knew that I needed

more people to know more about it.

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So if you're not practicing gratitude,

I would urge you just to give it

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a go and don't do it in a you can

do it in a solitary experience.

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It's good to start these things

and learn to feel how you do it.

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group where other people are doing it,

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the impact is even more profound because

you start to see what other people, how

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their lives are transforming and how we

are unique, but also we've also got a lot

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It's profound.

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It's profoundly simple.

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So many of us don't do it.

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hard in that moment.

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It's easier if you're a glass

half full kind of person.

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audioMelissaAmos11063558080: But if

you've always identified as somebody who

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is a glass half empty kind of person,

then things can change because like

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I said there was certainly times in

my life where I, my baseline wasn't.

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wasn't of joy or of peace.

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Now, this doesn't mean that I

don't ever fall into anything.

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lying because there's times in the day,

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there's times in a moment, there's times

in an hour where it's yesterday, hopefully

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my yoga teacher's not listening to this.

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It's it sounds so silly, but

this is an everyday thing,

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So I went to yoga.

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I was not feeling it.

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I was feeling, my body was feeling heavy.

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I was tired.

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I was like, and it was like the

hardest session and I was just,

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that was telling me all the things.

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You can't do this.

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She's annoying, which is not.

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She's amazing.

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She's annoying.

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Oh my God, I'm so heavy.

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What the hell is wrong with me?

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I'm never going to come to yoga again.

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I'm just going to wrap

my map up and leave.

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My body's failing me.

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I can't do this.

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And she actually said something

at one moment and she said

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celebrate your strength.

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She could see we were all

struggling, celebrate your strength.

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So out of this routine,

there was, I don't know.

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It felt like 75 percent of

the stuff I couldn't do.

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And then I thought, okay I can

be here in a down dog and it's

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okay and I can enjoy that.

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And I can be here in this

and I can enjoy that.

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I still would rather have been at home.

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But goodness me, when we got

into Shavasana at the end

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of it, how grateful was I?

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And I was like, well done body that

even though you didn't enjoy that

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experience, you did it and we got

through it and I honored part of

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that, I didn't push myself into.

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And so things that my body was

clearly telling me not to, and

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that's not the point of yoga anyway.

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But and it then gave me a talking point,

even in soul space call yesterday,

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we were talking about, the range of

emotions and I, and it came up as a

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talking point and now we're talking

about it here, had everything always

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have been easy and always have been good.

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Like I wouldn't have had that

lesson or I wouldn't have had this

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conversation to be able to relate to.

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Gratitude can be there in every moment.

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It's just, where do we focus it on?

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Am I focusing on the 75 percent of

the thing that I can't do, or even

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1 percent of the thing I can't do?

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Or am I going to allow myself the, when

I got here, and I, I'm able to do this.

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audioBethHewitt21063558080: It is.

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It definitely is.

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It really I'm so pleased that you

were able to find the positive, the

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gratitude, and the, and I love that

you talked to your body as well.

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I think I might, as well as talking to

the inanimate objects, I think I'm going

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to start talking to, thank you, leg.

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Interestingly, my dad talks to, he was

saying because my dad's got Parkinson's

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and Sometimes his legs don't want to

do what his brain's telling it to do.

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And he was saying that he,

yesterday he talks to his, come

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on leg, we've got a job to do.

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And I think just having that, bringing

that into focus is sometimes just

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the thing that we need do the thing.

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So I'm going to talk to my body more.

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I'm grateful for my body.

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audioMelissaAmos11063558080: I

talk to my body all day long.

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I think that whole episode, not

all day long, I think that's

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a whole episode in itself.

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When I did my body psychotherapy as

part of my psychotherapy training

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the perspective shift was massive.

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And our body holds so much wisdom

and it's just an, again, it's

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just another, it's another thing.

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And we, and if we start to think

about how we talk to our body.

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It can change.

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It can change everything.

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So I'd love to dive into

that at some point as well.

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and I'd love to dive, take notes,

dive into the talking to an inanimate

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objects, because from a shamanic

perspective, like it's huge.

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And if you're moving house, if

you're getting a new car, if you're

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bringing a new crystal into your

home, if you're, trying to fix your

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dishwasher that it's there's some real

magic that can happen in there too.

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If we start to treat them as

beings in their own right,

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audioBethHewitt21063558080: Yeah,

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audioMelissaAmos11063558080:

arguably they are

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audioBethHewitt21063558080: I think

people do it with the cars, don't they?

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People sometimes give

the names to the cars.

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But all the other, like all the other

things that we've got around the house,

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why shouldn't they all have a part in the

naming I think it's really interesting.

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I think we should talk more

about how we talk to plants.

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People talk to plants.

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My brain's going all over

the place, don't they?

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And the plants that are sung to and

spoken to are the ones that flourish.

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When, when I had my depressive

episode, over 10 years ago.

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And when I went back in, I had

a phased return back to work.

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There was when I got back there,

there were, I was in a new office.

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I had not worked here, but all

the people were the same, but

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we were just in different space.

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And it was like some of the boxes hadn't

been fully unpacked from their move.

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And in this box was this plant.

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It was literally like a plant in a pot.

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And it was like a twig.

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It had no flowers on it.

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It had nothing on it.

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And I really resonated with this plant

and that I took the plant out of the

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box and I put it on my desk and I

was like, Beth, what are you doing?

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It's dead.

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What are you doing with this plant?

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I was like, no, I have come.

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I'm back.

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I'm coming back.

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This plant is going to come back.

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I'm going to take this plant on board.

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And I spoke to that plant and I

watered that plant every single day.

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And it was like a, it was symbolic

of my own kind of, journey back.

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To be in me and feeling

better and feeling well again.

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And the day that, the leaves

started to sprout, everyone was like

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you fully believed in the plant.

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And I did.

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audioMelissaAmos11063558080: Thank you.

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I believe in this love.

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audioBethHewitt21063558080: And it

was such a random plant because it

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wasn't even like a, it wasn't upright.

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It was like on its side.

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So as it was growing, it was

just like a random plant with

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a few leaves here and there.

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It wasn't a beautiful plant, but

it was symbolic and it was, I

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believed in it and I spoke to it

and I watered it and I nurtured it.

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And it was, symbolic of the

nurturing that I needed to do for

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myself through that time as well.

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So I totally believe in the power of.

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Plants and inanimate objects and the

body and everything, so we should

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definitely talk more about that.

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audioMelissaAmos11063558080: be honest,

all I'm sitting here thinking is,

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imagine we worked in an office together.

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We'd have been like kindred spirits.

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We'd have been like,

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audioBethHewitt21063558080: We'd

have we'd have got stuff done.

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audioMelissaAmos11063558080: and I wonder

how many people are listening going,

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I wish we had a Beth in our office.

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And if you're the one sitting

listening, listening to this, thinking,

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I wish you'd be the one because

you do know who you will inspire.

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I was the one.

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And I would talk about all of the stuff.

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And I remember this.

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One of the girls going, she was temping

with us and she was like, I can't believe

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how open you are about all of this stuff.

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And I'm like, why wouldn't,

like, why wouldn't I be?

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And it was inspiring for

I didn't know at the time.

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I was just I just found out

about the law of attraction.

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So I was in that very exciting state.

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And you just don't know.

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And I think that this journey to

coming back to being yourself and

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like wherever you are and allowing

your full expression to come out.

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And if anyone says anything just blame us.

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I was listening to a podcast and they

tell me to talk to the printer and

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the plants and apparently it works.

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So I'm just going to try it

and then send them our way.

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audioBethHewitt21063558080:

Definitely do that.

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Okay I've loved our episode today, we

stopped, we trusted, and we flowed.

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audioMelissaAmos11063558080: We did.

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Let that be our mantra for the day.